Really quick
I'm at a lost... My WH wants to be back together and make a go at it... Only problem is he refuses to move back home to help money wise. He has his own apartment and can afford it with little left over, me on the other hand am 60.00 short without buying food and gas. He asked me to stop the divorce, we were coming up to the sposual support date. When I stop the divorce i'll have to stop that too. My question is why won't he come back, he tells me its because of living next door to my parents, which leave him alone. He says when we sell the house and can move we can live together, but I'm sinking fast here. Am I being blind, he tells me he ended it with OW and wants to live with me. Did he just want to stop the divorce so he didn't have to pay support? He has not mentioned anything about helping with some bills, in fact he said shut of cable and phone. I just don't no what to do. I told him I didn't want to date because I'm a full time college student, full time mom to a 12th grader, and also work 32 1/2 hrs. a week. I don't have time to date him on the weekends.

Sounds as if he is being manipulating to me???? Maybe others can pitch in.

have you talked to a counselor? it definitely sounds manipulative, but if you want to make a go of it, you definitely should take this opportunity!I heard an author on a radio show today, *******edit********...she had some great info on how to communicate so that you can come to some solutions. Might be worth a try, good luck

Whoa Nellie!!

Back up and take a deep breath.There is no hurry when it comes to things like this and I agree there's something rotten in Denmark.Sounds like he is having second thoughts on financial issues or maybe the OW just dumped him and now he wants to try again with you since you aren't technically D'd yet.Second best?

Just what about the house? Would you have retained it in the D? And how close are you to a D? **DON'T let him rush you.And don't believe a thing he says yet.He sounds a bit desperate and you need to find out why.

The house is mine, I had it put in my name in July, The divorce is coming up around the end of Oct. He is ****** bent on not moving back to the house because its been on the market for 2 yrs. and he does not think it will sell any time soon. He wants to live in his apartment and me in the house struggling to make ends meet. He refuses to move because of my parents. I want to stand my ground and tell him he needs to chose. My counsler first thought when I told him that he changed his mind and is not coming back was that he is still seeing OW. Thats funny because that was my first thought.

Maybe if he has to pay spousal support he won't be able to "maintain his lifestyle/apartment" and he may not be too happy about that....Put the hook out there and maybe she'll bite...and nothing Changes for Him...and he just plays you.

If he wants to try and work things out but live separately it would be nice of him to help you alittle financially...he should want to look like your knight in shining armour..

He cheated -- he wants another chance?
Then he will be willing to do whatever you require.

Its YOUR turn to be protected.

You should proceed with the divorce -- but remain open to reconciling when he is willing to meet YOUR conditions.
And the condition of living together is NOT unreasonable.