hurtingless:

I notice your sig says "radical honesty never achieved". But you describe your wife as "former" WW.

How's that working out? how do you make it work?

"inquiring minds want to know", since I'm guessing I'll never be able to get true RH from my wife, so will need an "alternative plan".

Geez,

I just changed that today. LOL you are perceptive.

Nope it was never achieved. My FWW had her A while visiting family back east. So NC was pretty easy. Guy was broke and it was nearly impossible for them to carry on from 3,000 miles away.

Right now it isn't working all that well LOL.

We touched on it at MC 2 weeks ago.

See now it doesn't effect me as much. Because I know enough to blow away her justifications and I know enough to speak intelligently about what happened.

I called the times we talked inforamtion confirmation sessions. I found out or figured out. I brought her the info then she confirmed it.

Now it is only going to effect her and only her. She has asked me for some things that require trust. I made it perfectly clear I can now live with you not being completely honest. But since you weren't honest you have lost trust that you will never earn back.

If for instance I may only get to 80% trust because of this. If you want to do something that requires more trust then that I will say no. If you want to know why this is why.

She is not handling that well.

To be honest at this point I don't want to know anymore. I did for the longest time but she won.

I can't open up these wounds any more.

The reason I wanted to know is my wife acted according to what I knew not what she did.

There you go. If your wife does not need your trust let her go down the path my FWW did.

It hurt a lot. Might actually be our undoing.

Three years to come clean to what I knew.

BTW our last info confirmation session she let me know she was with him on our anniversary and bought him dinner.

When I brought that up in MC she said you knew I bought him dinner. I said yes I did, not that dinner but the other two. LOL. Gotta love infidelity, lies and betrayal. Then she said oh I thought you did.