It's funny, but up until tonight I never really put much of a thought into if my DH is possibly cheating on me. However I want to know what others may think of some things that are starting to concern me. My DH was out of work for 8 months until February because of a work injury. He went back to work in a completely different field at my suggestion and he has overall enjoyed it very much. He grew up with a father that always worked and was rarely home till late at night. Now my Dh is picking up that habit. He was supposed to be out of work at 6pm. It;s nearing 10 now and all I have is one phone call saying that he had a delivery late tonight and another message on the home answering machine that I deleted in error before listening to it ( new machine) I just tried calling and it just rang. For the last 6 weeks or so this has been the pattern, just not this late at work. Our first anniverary is in 12 days and his job (car sales) is having a big event. Ok fine, no biggie. All I wanted to do was have him get out on time, he claims they won't let him and he doesn;t understand why I am upset about it. Sex is non-exsistent lately as he has been picking fights over stupid things and then blowing everything out of proportion. Or he comes home from work and has to take a nap because he is tired. That particular one sits poorly with me as I work 2 jobs, only get 1 day off a week and am currently 5 months pregnant. I also do the majority of the housework as he claims he never makes a mess. Lately he's started the habit of doing his laundry for work, but none of the rest of the laundry. Ok, I just get a call back from him and he says he's heading home right now and that he delivered 3 cars today. I'd like to tell him to bring home a signed letter from his boss stating that he has been at work this entire time. Funny his boss told him to go home and spend time with me yesterday at the end of the workday. As far as I know DH has no keys to the dealership yet, so who stayed with him. We obviosuly are having problems already on a few fronts and I joined this site to chat with others as we work on improving our marriage. Tonight is the first night I'm really beginning to wonder if he's having an affair.

Pardon me if this is jumbled. I'm tired and a moody pregnant woman. If you need clarification on my ramblings, please let me know. thanks

I see some red flags here. Sex? Coming home late? Whats with the laundry (work clothes)? have you asked him?

I think you may have a WS there. Even if you H isnt straying, you also have a number of issues that can be addressed with His Needs, Her Needs (HNHN). You are 4 months from total disaster. If the M is like this now, when the Baby comes, it's going to be an inferno....

Read around on this site, follow some threads that parallel your situation in the EN Area, it will give you assistance to begin to deal with some of those issues. Then, continue to post, and pay attention!. There are terrific folks here to listen and give great advice, come pback to your post and respond to them, they will help you though this most difficult time.

I've brought it up in casual conversation and I've told him that he is exhibiting some classic signs of having an affair. I am generally not a jealous person and he knows that. His ex was highly jealous and he's had some issues in the past adjusting to it. He admitted once that if I showed some jealousy that is reassured him. If he can prove he is at work, and working, all these times then I will believe him. Pregnancy has been easy for me physically, emotionally it's been a wicked rollercoaster. Heck even I'd avoid myself somedays. The clothing issue I can kind of relate to by the way. I have a tendancy to toss my clothes in by themselves once in a while and I know I'm not having an affair, lol.

he just got home and I told him to make sure he gets a signed note from his boss stating that he was at work. He asked me why I thought he was having an affair. I explained the above issues and frankly its turning into a very amusing conversation. I do mean that. He says he will put me on the phone with his coworker, but I told him he could be covering. He even knows I put a post here about this and he is interested to know the thoughts. When he's home I just don't see it. He even put me on the phone with his co-worker/car pool guy. His coworker said they have had a very hard end of month. we'll see what happens.

Well keep your eyes and ears open

they definitely will be and he is now aware of how his actions are percieved. His job is not too far from our home so the next time, or several times, he is late at work I will drive to the area and see whats going on.