I know some of you have followed my story but was hoping to get some more advice... please!!! My fwh wants to move back in together but I'm afraid. I know harvey's recomend living together whenever the ws is aggreeable. But as my h kicked me and the kids out last winter, when I was 6 months pregnant, I'm very hesitant to move back in together, putting me and the kids' security and safety in his hands. I believe in marriage and trying very hard to make it work, but I'm not sure I even have any positive feelings left for him and I don't know what he could do to earn my trust back! When do you know enough is enough? Any ideas or feedback?

I'd be inclined to have him move in with you so if you separate again you can kick him out, not the reverse.

Sorry, I don't know enough about your sitch or feel qualified to comment on whether or not you should live together again right now .... the experts around here will be able to weigh in on that part much better than I would. But I have unfortunately learned a little bit about the legal mechanics of this stuff recently .....

If you do decide to live with him again, please talk to a lawyer, first. You may not be able to kick him out once he's living with you -- even if it's him moving in with you, like BigK suggests (which I agree seems like a smarter idea than you moving in with him).

If you do go that route, I'd get something formal and legal in place ... a post nup or something that protects you and your children and provides some security, and a way to get him out before you do let him move in.

Once he's living with you, it's not easy to just throw him out if things get bad again.

Good luck.

-AmI.

Thank you for your input. He cannot move in with me as I am in a government housing project. That is, he makes to much money. He has a big house with just him living there, while me and 5 children are crowded into a 3 bedroom apartment. I just don't know..