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My husband of 3 years went to go visit his EX wife yesterday to see how she was doing..and see her new baby. He has no children with her. He also called her to tell her about her highschool reunion...WHAT is wrong with this picture..He recently has lost 40 pounds and I wonder if this has something to do with it..or some unresolved feeling?? OR is this something that is normal or you think there is more to this?? what do you think? THIS is my first time here...
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Is his ex married? Is it possible he is having an A with her and the baby is his? Sorry but you must be here on an infidelity forum because your instincts are telling you something.
Do you have children together? How long has he been talking to his ex?
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
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yes, she is married...they have been divorced for about 6 years..tomorrow is like the 6th anniversary of their divorce. Well, I came to this site because this has happened to me with my last marriage. He cheated on me while I was 7 months pregnant. Marriage Builders helped me back then. He adopted my oldest daughter (19) a few months ago....They talk periodically because of his job..this is the first time he out of the blue went to see her...
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Ok, then I would do a little sleuthing before you make any assumptions. If you cannot find any sign of him cheating or talking excessively to her then maybe you can just talk to him about how this made you feel. I would hesitate to jump to conclusions.
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me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
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He should not have any friends... including ex wives... in his life that make you uneasy. Period.
If he wants to go see her... you should also go along.
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yeah, thanks..i am going to talk to him again tonight...but since this has happened to me before I guess the ol' mind wanders...I just think him going over there is very odd...thanks for your input...:)
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I agree and vise versa....:) thank you.
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Has he been remained on friendly terms w/her and has he been in contact w/her for the entire length of time that you have known him or is this something new?
The weight loss...... Did he work at losing the weight?
Is he doing anything else that is a red flag to you?
I agree w/other poster that if his association w/her causes you discomfort he shouldn't do it.
Just my thoughts.
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