Okay...

Per AGG's suggestion, here is my post detailing my life as I'm screwing it up. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

My kids are going to be gone this weekend. I really don't want to be alone. I called up one of the women I dated last year (K) and set up a golf date with her for early in the afternoon. She asked if I wanted to stay and go to a concert with her and a couple of her friends later in the evening. I said sure.

So, what is your opinion about getting back on the horse so soon?

i say GO!!!

but im speaking from my own opinion and "thats all that matters right?".....

have fun and just keep it in perspective.

A friend of mine has a motto, "the best way to get over somebody is to get under somebody"...

I don't see anything wrong with going golfing. I think it'd be fun to be out in female company again.

As far as climbing on (or under) horses so soon, only you can answer that <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />.

It really depends on the breakup - if you are still sad or missing M, then I'd go slow. If it is truly over and done (and dealt) with, then maybe you're good to go.

Personally, I am surprised at how "over" G I am already. I think it is largely because for the past couple of months, I already knew in my heart of hearts that it was over. So I feel ready to go on dates again, just not sure that I feel interested. I like my alone time, and time with kids, too <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

I think it sounds like fun. It also sounds very casual. If I were K, I probably wouldn’t consider it a “date.” More friends than anything else. After all, you broke up with her for someone else.

Sounds like fun.

I don't think this is a situation where you need to "heal" or be alone for a long time.
You had a sorta long term relationship that didn't work out despite many efforts to try. You've already learned what you needed to learn from it.

You're not jumping into some serious relationship -- you're going out to have some fun with someone you had a connection with before.

Sounds like a good plan!

Thought I would give you an update on how the weekend went for me.

Friday afternoon, got a call from my son. I asked him if he was ready to be picked up by his mom. He said that she wasn't picking him up. Apparently, sometime between when I asked him on Tuesday and Friday he changed his mind about going up to his mother's house and the both of them neglected to tell me. So anyway, I called his mom and told her that I had plans over the weekend and that he needed to go up to her house. My daughter had a birthday sleepover Saturday night.

Saturday morning I dropped my daughter off at her friend's and went over and picked up K. We golfed nine holes and talked a lot. She brought sandwiches and ate at the picnic pavilion. Went back to her house, talked some more, took her dog for a walk and got ready for when her friends got there.

Her friends came over. It was parents weekend at the town she is in so it took us about three hours to eat. We sat around visiting for awhile, went to see if there were any bands playing worth watching. There weren't so we went back to where we had dinner and visited till about one in the morning when they took us back to her house. We talked and danced a little bit more before I left.

That was about it. K did consider it a date (cause I asked her) but that's ok. We'll probably see each other again, but I don't feel that I 'need' to see her again.

K has her own 'men' situation she's dealing with. She's been seeing one guy for about six weeks, but he has a tendency to wait to the last minute to plan anything with her. They had a lot of chemistry, but doesn't like feeling like she has to wait around for him to call. She's been seeing another guy for about three weeks. One week ago he started using the L word. In fact he sent her a dozen roses with an emotionally charged card Saturday morning knowing that we were going out. He also gave her a CD with some songs they had talked about. In fact, we danced to his CD, so I'm not so sure how I feel about that. Anyway, he called her 4 or 5 times Saturday night quite upset. Oh, and I forgot, she met another guy last week and was going to go out with him until she found out he has a virtual live in girlfriend.

I had a pretty good time. It was a little boring when they were talking because the conversation mostly centered on their high school days and people they went to high school with. I enjoyed the time I spent with her.

wow, there are too many others in the picture there for me to want to consider going out with this person again. but that is just me. i am a one person at a time kind of woman. are you sure you just want to be one in a line of many?

mlhb

I would suggest you're too anxious to "get back on the horse". I'm not sure not wanting to be alone is the best reason to ask a woman out. If I knew that's why I got asked out I'd feel pretty crummy about it.

If this is strictly friends, kinda doesn't sound like it though, could be different.