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Joined: May 2004
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I was a long time member here during my previous marriage and we eventually divorced due to his sexual addiction and numorous PAs.
Now I'm in a relationship with a man (3+ years) and I keep finding myself looking for reasons not to trust him. I know this has so much to do with all the baggage I brought from my last marriage, but I'm so afraid to give my heart 100%.
How do you not ruin future relationships?
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Joined: Jul 2005
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Well the obvious answer is to never get into another relationship again. And that's certainly a valid option.
But if you want to take the risk for the rewards that a relationship offers, then perhaps you would benefit to learn fear management techniques. Fear is a good thing. It protects us. But as you know, fear can place up barriers in places where they aren't necessarily needed.
Courage isn't the absence of fear, it is the acknowledgement of fear and doing that which needs to be done in spite of it.
~Big Guy
BigGuy1965a118 @ MatchDotCom
Currently a RENTER.
Still working on my TAKER.
Looking for the one who'll hold my hand at 85.
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Dear Empowered,
did you have any counseling for the "baggage" you refer to?
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