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Separated 1 1/2 months now. W in her own place, D is in the process.
She has been emphatic since the split that "We're getting a divorce, I don't want to be married to you anymore, I don't Love You, I don't have any feelings for you".
Today, out of the clear blue sky comes a call....."I miss you". Only thing I could say was, "huh? what did you say?". She repeated it. I said "Thank You, I miss you too." Then she said she doesn't want to talk about it and quickly hung up.
Do I read into more into this or was this just a weak moment on her part (although not her style to be weak). Just as I was moving on and feeling strong......Dang!
BS (me) - 46
WW - 37
Separated on Sept. 1, 2006
Divorced June 2007
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Sounds more like she is testing the waters and may be having some regrets. Next time don't tell her you miss her, tell her you miss your W, the real her. That should smack her back to reality.
JMHO,
L.
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Good point Orchid.
I was just thrown off for a minute. Knowing her, I did not expect those words to ever come out of her mouth. Recently, we've been trying to be civil, not fight, talk about simple things like TV shows, paint colors, etc. Nothing deep or about the relationship. i figured the attorney's will handle that part.
Now I'm wondering if we should slow the D down and just Sep. for a while.
BS (me) - 46
WW - 37
Separated on Sept. 1, 2006
Divorced June 2007
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HT, if you are not sure you want a divorce you don't have to do a thing to help it along. Make your WW do all the dirty work and heavy lifting when it comes to dismantling your family. Don't make it easy for her.
And yes, I agree that she is testing the waters. Just repeat to her what Orchid told you to say.
Hang in there! It ain't over yet unless you want it to be.
Mulan
Me, BW
WH cheated in corporate workplace for many years. He moved out and filed in summer 2008.
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