My Wh admitted to being unfaithful 7-9-06 and left the house immediately. I thought it was multiple one night stands, drinking, etc. He made it sound like just whenever he felt like it he went to this OP house and got some. Like it was no big deal to him, just sex.

Just this week 10/1/06, I found out it has been the same woman for 4 months. He knows I know now.

Which date counts for the affair being exposed? This is just so I know how long to expect the A to continue...I know there are no absolutes, but there have been some posts with general timelines.

InHis,

DDay (discovery day)

Dday #1 07/09/06

If he said he was sorry, asked your forgiveness, went to MC, and worked on rebuilding your M and then on 10/01/06 you found out what you found out...then...

Dday #2 10/01/06

If, when you say he left the house immediately, means that he moved out without any of the above occurring, then you just found out more info, there is not another Dday.

NOW, as far as EXPOSING the affair goes, you must expose the A to the OW's husband or boyfriend, his family, your family, his work, his friends and everyone else that has meaning to him and that could persuade him to stop the A.

Exposing the A is the best tool to stop the A by bringing the dirty little secret into the light of day and everyone involved with your H sees him for the slimy weasle that he is.

This really does not have anything to do with ""how long to expect the A to continue.."". It may continue indefinitely until you do something about it, like EXPOSE!!

""I know there are no absolutes, but there have been some posts with general timelines."" ??????

I know not of what you speak. I HAVE read a timeline that says, say, "if the A was 6 months long it will take at least a year for recovery" Is this to what you were referring??

krk

The A and his behaviors have been exposed since the 7/9/06 date, so I guess that would stay the date. He doesn't seem to care that anyone knows. The OW is DV and I know nothing about her other than workplace. however I do have a PI looking into it...he's a friend so it is a favor.

I think I read it in the book that A with low emotional attachment usually last about 6 months. I must have thought I read it here too.

Thanks for the answer. I started wandering if I was at point A all over again or if I could continue on.

In/HisCare, to whom was the affair exposed? Is he still seeing her?

To everyone we know! He is still seeing the woman. UGH!