I've really been using the time apart from M to examine just what it is that I want and came up with a list.

Here is the list of what I want in my life from a relationship standpoint.

1) I want friendship
2) I want romance.
3) I want SF
4) I want physical (non SF) displays of affection
5) I want shared activity (i.e. hang out, go places)
6) I want separate living arrangements for at least 4 years
7) I want to date more women to see what is out there.

I am curious, do you have anything you want from a relationship that you don't see on my list?

and,

Do you think it is possible to be satisfied if you don't get each of these from one person, but instead got some things from one person and other things from another?

And before y'all beat me up...

I'm not looking to get all of these things at once. Like I'm not going to do 3 and 7 at the same time. That's not me.

I'm just trying to figure out my destination(s) before I put together the driving instructions.

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hmmmm....
for me, i cannot get some needs met by one person and some needs met by another. but, i also cannot really date more than one man at a time. i never have. i dunno why, but i am a one man at a time person. i just don't date seriously someone who is not meeting most of my needs. i dated a guy for a little while who i enjoyed talking to and stuff but he really met very few of my needs. it didn't pan out too long because there was really no need to go further since i knew it would never go anywhere. that is how a lot of my dating went. i just did not get in too serious since only a few of my needs were being met. my current relationship i did allow to go further because all of my needs are being met with this man and i can see it going somewhere. so, i am not dating anyone else and am just concentrating on this since it is a rare find to have one person meet many of my needs.

i agree with some of your list. i need companionship, i need good passionate sf, i need affection, etc. i don't see me living alone for the next 4 years. i have already been living alone for a year and a half. would like to see something happen in the next 2 for me. i am currently happy so don't feel the need to be out there dating around to see what is out there. not going to find much better than what i have right now.

i think it is good that you are thinking about what you want. that is important.

mlhb

Hi Big Guy, I seem to be like mlhb about one man at a time. Even if I wasn't, at my age and living out in the sticks, even that's hard to find, much less several guys to date at once!

I dated a guy all summer who I really thought might be "the one". Unfortunately, he was on the rebound and when the XGF who dumped him started fighting to get him back... well they're now planning their wedding and I'm feeling crushed. Hard way to learn that lesson!

So, for me:
1) I want friendship - definitely!
2) I want romance - that, too.
3) I want SF - not just SF, but good, passionate SF, like mlhb said.
4) I want physical (non SF) displays of affection - good.
5) I want shared activity (i.e. hang out, go places) - very important.
6) I want separate living arrangements for at least 4 years - I don't have a time frame on this one, but definitely until there's a commitment and/or marriage, which I see as at least a year.
7) I want to date more women to see what is out there - as you said, not at the same time as #3, but I figure it will take dating more than one person to find someone I feel as compatible with and attracted to as the last guy I dated!
8) No one on the rebound (added to all the NOTs from my M)!

1) I want friendship first and foremost
2) I want romance.
3) I want SF. I agree with the others..good and passionate SF is a must have.
4) I want physical (non SF) displays of affection.
5) I want shared activity (i.e. hang out, go places)
6) I want separate living arrangements for at least 4 years..a year or two would be enough for me...everyone has different timelines.
7) I want to date more men to see what is out there. I've recently tried the multiple dating scene and it worked for about a week. I just can't do it. One at a time works for me. I know what I want and I will find him eventually.
8) Preferably he would have been married and have children.
9) He must have a GREAT sense of humor. I find humor out of the most bizarre stuff and mr. wonderful would have to share that same sense of humor.
10) He must be secure and independent. At this age...He should have somewhat of a career and a sense of "self".
11) NO mama boys allowed!! They must love and respect there mother but draw the line at having mother make all his decisions.

Okay I think that's enough for now...I'm know there are more but I'll reserve the rights on them...LOL