So are you saying she contined to do it or just more times previous to D-Day than she admitted to earlier?

Yea I understand. I am new to this forum concept and I didn't notice my posts went to a 2nd page

What is ML's posts?

Not only more times, but just minutes from the house! She would say she was going to the store to get cigarettes or something and be gone for over an hour. She went to the store alot during this period. I had no idea she was running to him at the time.

Just a fresh wound

I showed W this forum in hopes she comes her an posts to get herself some peace of mind and understanding, and doesn't do it just to see what I have said in my posts.

Lost, we won't be able to help you stop this affair if she comes to this forum. Did you read my posts to you above with my suggestions to call the OMW?

I understand, but she has seen me on this web site and is asking questions. Saying that people might be leading me astray? I think more WS are in this site then may be known.

I did call the OMW and she (The OMW) thinks that her husband is the nicest of people. The OM is active in his church and in his community. OM has denied most of what I told OMW and she has been down playing the whole A, but I know different as I have seent he emails and my wife revealed most, but not all.

I'm not 100% positive of the times they met as W's story has been changing for the last 5 weeks. Things didn't make sense and I confronted here, so the last I found out (This Saturday) was that they stayed just minutes from our home so she would have easier access to him and more time spent together. She was going out to the store very often at these times. A 10 min store run would take 1-1/2 hrs.

Another set back

Just know that we can't help you bust up this affair anymore if she is coming here. She will know exactly what we are telling you, so we can't help you.


I would give her the emails and also call up the OM's pastor, boss and mother. But with your W reading here, she can just forewarn the OM of all this and he can call them up and pre-empt you. See why it is a bad idea to bring idea to bring a wayward here? You can't use this forum as a resource anymore.

Did you give the OMW this information?

I had the initial contact with the OMW and revealed what I knew, but that was all.

She needs to know this newly discovered information.

UpDate:

Last night W brought home phone records from work so I can monitor that contact is broken. The records only show outgoing calls, so the OM can still be calling and I would not know. Also the records show all calls in the past 30 days went to him, every day, and sometimes all day on the hour. Like 180 some minutes. I'm lucky to hear from her a few times a day even now and shes aways distracted when we talk, always doin something else.

I feel so lost...Don't know if the contact is done... We fight more now then previous when W was having the affair....This is actually getting worse...I just don't know if I can let this go.....She still declares no love for this man....And that we will work through all this....But my heart tells me different.... We both went to bed angry or atleast I did....She tells me now that I enjoy finding out stuff like this, that I thrive on it....All I wanted to do was make sure contact was broken...I was not expecting what I found in those phone records....Am I in some way trying to hurt myself more on some level by researching into what she tells me?

Lost, if she brings home phone records showing that she talks to him all day, then how can you ask if "contact is done?" I am very confused here. You can see with your eyes that contact has not ended.

How could you hurt yourself by verifying the truth of what she says? Don't you need to know if she is telling you the truth? Of course you don't enjoy or "thrive" on all this, but you do have to know the truth so you can protect yourself.

Did you read what I said about contacting the OMW again? She can be a real ally in killing this affair. If she doesn't believe the affair, show her the emails and all of your phone bills.

You might also want to expose this information to her BOSS so she will stop using the workplace as a place to contact the OM.

I was unclear in my post. The records were prior to D-Day. The reocords she provides only show some of the calls she made. The records do not show incoming calls from the OM. The records she provided show NO calls after Sept 4th - The day I found out.

What I am basically saying is I have no way at this time to verify NC - Other then her word

ok, I gotcha. Then I would recommend again that you try other things to ensure no contact, such as having the OMW watch from her end. Also, if you find out that contact is ongoing, you could expose her at work. But, I think it is important that you get the OMW on your side so you can work together to kill this affair.