My wife and I are thinking of trying the marriage builders weekend. Have any of you here done that? We havn't started any kind of counseling yet, she had an affair for a few months and we are just now trying to start on recovery. She is in no contact with the OM and I think her fog is gradually lifting, or so it seems. I can actually see glimpses of my old wife. Do you think the marriage builders weekend would be good for us to attend or is it more for people that havn't been through this yet? I think it's a little pricey, but the way I see it, worth every penny and more if it helps save our marriage. Should we go through the program as well as get counseling, should we try counseling first, the program first and then counseling, or would the marriage builders weekend and follow up program be enough?

Sorry for all of the questions but I'm very new at this and any suggestions or advice seems to help.

Rico:

I was the WS, and I set up and attended the MB W/E with my BS. And it was terrific. Please note that I was the one doing the work, it proved my commitment to changing the M environment for my BS.

We had also read HNHN and she had read SAA prior to attending. THe seminar is a great overview of the MB principles, it does not go into great depth on most of the subjects, but it hits the ones that most need to be hit.

The price isn't bad, but what is your Marriage worth?

It can become a weekend that you and your WS can reconnect, especially if she is ready to re-commit to the M. The techniques that are taught is the seminar, are available on this website, but you have the opportunity to listen together, ask questions of each ather, and even explore the reason that your M was affected by an affair.

Please be sure that your WS is ready to attend, and receptive to what is about to be taught. If she is still in the fog, and denial, then the seminar would not be as successful.

We went in June. Prior to then, we've both had IC and have gone through three different MC. I feel like I've been living the movie Groundhog Day for the past five years. While my H had an affair, the main problem in our M has been abuse. The result of the MBW has been the complete cessation of arguing. The MBW was certainly worth more than the thousands of dollars we've spent on the other marriage counselors.

By the way, the real value isn't the weekend. It's the followup program. They stay with you if either one of you is trying to make the marriage work.

Respectful

Great, Great news...

I posted that my WW actually suggested we attend after my recommendation that she read the MB webiste. It was certainly a ray of hope that day!

She's in a fog thicker than anything I've ever heard about... I can't wat for the sun to start shining.

Still, I've also read that you shouldn't put too much hope on one of these weekends things, but it's about all the hope I have right now.

CharlieEcho - My wife and I are in Australia so we purchased the MB audio course. If we were in the YSA we would have done the weekend. The course is great. You get it included with the weekend I believe. If your wife is willing to attend I highly recommend going. It and following the MB principles will save your marriage. The weekend gives you a head start I believe.