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YOu said: I prefer solitude, thinking, reading, writing. I prefer family to empty socialness. I became more deeply rooted in who I am. You and I are SOULMATES!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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Thanks, Mimi.
Ever noticed that, once WH has moved out, BWs feel this huge pressure to SHOW that they are having a great time? Dancing all night, drinking bubbly out of slippers, surrounded by handsome men, new diet, new dress, etc.? The horror of having an empty Saturday night while you imagine WH and OW wildly having it off? It's just more pressure, pressure, pressure...
I guess there's a place for this ... but it was wonderful when I just didn't care anymore. I prefer a cup of tea and a fuzzy bathrobe and my cats. My idea of a vacation is to tell everyone I'm out of town, turn off the phone, and read the books in my own library that I never got 'round to.
"Virtue -- even attempted virtue -- brings light; indulgence brings fog." -- C.S. Lewis
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And you know, I think that, in terms of marital recovery, this works better, anyway. When you begin doing what's right for you, you radiate a sense of being comfortable in your own skin. You radiate this just as the A begins to detonate.
"Virtue -- even attempted virtue -- brings light; indulgence brings fog." -- C.S. Lewis
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This is so true for me too - I just want to be alone, stay at home, paint, sew, snuggle with a cuppa and read my ever growing stack of books. Yes so comfotable in my own skin and my own world.
Then he comes home ... ay there's the rub ...
I agree ...
Linda
Me BSx2 63
1st M 13yrs WS Multiple As.
DD45 DD43 DS41 first marriage.
Him WS 56 P/A. PA + Multiple EAs from day one.
Current M. 26years
D Days 10/02, 11/02, 01/03, right up to 03/06
NC since 03/2006
Me Stage IV Breast Cancer since 36months,
Let us run with endurance the race that is set before us (Hebrews 12:1).Titus wife, Linda
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