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<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" /> Now my best friend's H is at the early stages of an emotional A with a coworker. He calls the OW a lot and it's driving my friend nuts, and she's stuck trying to decide about confronting him when she knows H has called OW, which then of course makes him really mad. He doesn't think that the calling is a big deal, that they're just friends, and doesn't get that it's inappropriate (or he's just lying, but he appears to be clueless). How can she get him to understand the seriousness of it? Or can she?
He is not willing to read or get counseling, even though he's contemplating separation. Meanwhile, she is just doing plan A to the best of her ability so that hopefully he'll be willing to try in the future. Any suggestions?

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Have her post here.