I moved it without the poll.

dorislis-

So sorry you have found yourself in this situation but you are in a great place.

First, how are you doing? Are you able to eat and sleep?
Are you under your doctor's care? This is such a stressful thing to go through, and with a new baby...I hope you are.
You were wise to end the relationship with the "new friend" because it was unfair.

I think you should start at Just Found Out and read everything in the Newly Betrayed spouse section. Also, read everything on this site-starting with Basic Concepts and How to survive infidelity. Plus, how affairs begin. These will give you some place to start.

You will find that many of the BS (betrayed spouses) here feel exactly like you. Our WS (Wayward spouses) seem to be kidnapped by aliens, reprogrammed, and come back saying and doing almost the same thing.

They are in a fog. They speak fogspeak. Yours sounds like he is in "cake eating" mode too. He wants you and his OW (other woman) You do love your husband. The person he is right now isn't your husband, he's an alien WH.

You will find kindred hearts and listening ears here. Don't make may decisions yet. Read. Post questions. Vent. This is a safe place to do that.

Hang in there

Your subject line says need advice but you are taking a poll?

You haven't given enough info to make a decision. You've stated your events.

You haven't stated what your goals and boundaries are. You need t/d some homework before we can give our 2 cents.

L.

No I don't sleep much. Never any time to much to do. No I haven't seen the doc for anything since the baby. But I have a 6 and 2 year old and any stress meds that they try to give me will not go good with the caring of my kids. My kids and their care are really not a problem to me, they are what get me going. It does get difficult at times but i just take a time out and move on. You know at first I thought that another guy was the right thing. Till now I dont know if it is or not. But what i do know is he was just a person trying to get me through this and i broke his heart. He is reallly nice and good to us do you really think it was the right thing to do? Or do you think i would grow to love him?