He isn't over it. He is more like a conflict avoider. He needs to help you find closure.

Best you call Steve for a recovery plan. 1st for you, then for him and finally for the M.

L.

I showed H this thread, and his comment was that he is over it. As I said, he is very pragmatic and can easily move on after an argument, for example, so perhaps this is an example of his resilience.

I agree that I need more closure on this, but I think that will come once the project is over. My concern is, what she'll do when she gets her Polish citizenship, as then she will be able to apply to come to the UK anyway (and will she try to get in contact again then). I really think she was trying to fast-track this plan all along, as it could take her years the official way. H has said, though, that once the project is over he will block her email and get rid of the work mobile number, so that she cannot contact him even if she were to go against his request.

There are things that I keep wondering about, but H thinks that I am dwelling too much on these issues. I suppose I am, but that's just me, and it is a concern to H that I should be causing myself so much grief by still worrying in this way. I just can't operate in the same way he does, but I guess that's how we've been all the time we've been together, not understanding each other's point of view (and not communicating effectively), and exactly what's caused all the misunderstandings that have led to this A. I guess we should go through the EN questionnaire and try and move on.