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I need some input on my situation. I'm posted under "advice please"
I spoke to my attorney today and I told her about the steps I've made to expose the affair and she said that it was pointless, that she's never heard of MB's concept working. So that leads me to ask, how often does this work? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
Kim-notkimmieZ anymore
WH Matt/Zeus-found out about PA 07/02/06- WA child 9/06; haven't heard from him since
ME: doing fine in Baltimore
D-12/05/07
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How does she know? Ask her how many people she has seen who did mb and ask her how she knows how many it works for. She would only see those who fail and she has no way of knowing how many mended and never cam to her or other lawyers. She never sees those who never file for divorce but fix the marriage.
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Me BSx2 63
1st M 13yrs WS Multiple As.
DD45 DD43 DS41 first marriage.
Him WS 56 P/A. PA + Multiple EAs from day one.
Current M. 26years
D Days 10/02, 11/02, 01/03, right up to 03/06
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Me Stage IV Breast Cancer since 36months,
Let us run with endurance the race that is set before us (Hebrews 12:1).Titus wife, Linda
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Just goes to show you can't rely on marriage counselling from an Atorney. Can't have you stuffing up their nice fee by saving your marriage now....
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW) D-Day August 2005 Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23 Empty Nesters. Fully Recovered.
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I need some input on my situation. I'm posted under "advice please"
I spoke to my attorney today and I told her about the steps I've made to expose the affair and she said that it was pointless, that she's never heard of MB's concept working. So that leads me to ask, how often does this work? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Tell her we have "heard" otherwise. I am living proof so now she has "heard" of at least one person. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> But hey, if she knows of a BETTER WAY, then ask for her statistical proof and go for it!
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Well I guess I'd better tell hubby that! Since it has been what... eight years now it's time he should know this isn't working. Yes, dear, over 8 years and happy and thriving. You can do this! Take care a God Bless.
6 grands DDay August 15,1998 Reconcilled Mid-Sept.1998 Husband40 FWS, Me 47 BW Fully recovered and moving on!
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I've never heard of a smart attorney who wasn't a leech.
I was suicidal, my wife was in a very entangled affair.
MB saved my marriage, my self respect and my life.
Harley did a whole lt more for me than any attorney ever has.
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Yep. I guess I better tell my wife our recovery is an illusion too. How sad. We were doing so well too.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW) D-Day August 2005 Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23 Empty Nesters. Fully Recovered.
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I need some input on my situation. I'm posted under "advice please"
I spoke to my attorney today and I told her about the steps I've made to expose the affair and she said that it was pointless, that she's never heard of MB's concept working. So that leads me to ask, how often does this work? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Ok, so what do you call 1000 lawyers all chained together 100 feet down on the ocean floor? ..... a good start??!?! she said that it was pointless, that she's never heard of MB's concept working.[/quote] That's an attorney speaking. What do you expect her to say? Of course MB concepts don't work for D lawyers. It doesn't make them $$. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Btw, the lawyer is babbling. Best you look for one that speaks your language and not jibberish. The real question is if you are gonna keep this lawyer? Then is this lawyer married? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> L.
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my attorney told me that it was pointless to try to save my marriage...that once they leave they don't come back
he's speaking from his experiences....and the information that he has
if he doesn't know about MB, he can't give his opinion on if it works or not
i simply restated to him WHAT I WANTED and how i wanted him to proceed (actually to NOT proceed since i'm stalling the divorce as long as possible)
he is paid to do the paperwork and represent my legal interest...to do what I want or need to have done....NOT to give me advice about how to save my marraige
the PI i consulted with told me the same thing
but there are many success stories here that support the fact that they are wrong
decide what YOU want
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I've never heard of a smart attorney who wasn't a leech. Hey, hey, be nice, now, there are a few of us out there! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> Regards, BB
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Woops, inaccurate statement alert: there are a few of us out there! Actually there are way too many lawyers from a cultural impact point of view. Larry
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I have the best divorce attorney in the state and when I told him what I have been doing and planned to do... he told me "Those are interpersonal strategies for your marriage... if you want to save your marriage then you'll be doing many things to achieve this goal. I will only focus on legal implications..." and he advised me how certain strategies would stengthen or weaken my legal standing....
He offered no opinion about the likelihood of success of my marriage strategies.... but he did offer me likelihood of success of legal strategies (separations, divorces, etc...) etc...
I respected this a lot.
If you're lawyer doesn't know what he/she doesn't know (offers "expert" advise in areas he/she hasn't acquired expertise) then you are working with an IGNORANT LAWYER. Best to find a lawyer that knows his/her limitations. IMHO
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Dr. Heartsore
BH = Me 38; WW = 35; DS = 5, DD = 3, DD = 14 mo. Feb 2006 = EA/PA started May 19 & Aug. 15, 2006 = D-Days Nov. 3, 2006 = Divorce Papers - (EA/PA ongoing)
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It works... it saved my life...
Can you find another attorney?
Me: FWW (34) H: BS (35) Together 12 years, no children (yet) LTA: 3 years D-Day: Sept. 13, 2005 (I confessed)
So blessed, thankful and happy for my wonderful H...
"God lives in the gathering of saints."
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Sounds to me like your lawyer went through a bitter divorce. Probably spent a lot of time at work and left a neglected S at home. S felt lonely and found someone else.
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I guess I only post when something p***es me off.
Ask your lawyer how many marraiges divorce lawyers save.
Of course the answer is it isn't their job.
Lawyers should do what they get paid to do and leave the marriage counceling to someone else.If they offer free advice, remember that you get what you pay for.
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I have the best divorce attorney in the state and when I told him what I have been doing and planned to do... he told me "Those are interpersonal strategies for your marriage... if you want to save your marriage then you'll be doing many things to achieve this goal. I will only focus on legal implications..." and he advised me how certain strategies would stengthen or weaken my legal standing.... I received similar advice from my attorney as he told me he is not a marriage coucelor. Your attorney should stick to the legal issues since that is what you are paying him/her for.
Married 10 years, Legally Seperated Aug 2,2006 1 year of Plan A followed by 1 year of Plan B... ...now stepping towards recovery????? BH 37(me), WW 35, DB 7 & DD 5 My Story My struggle with an EA
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I need some input on my situation. I'm posted under "advice please"
I spoke to my attorney today and I told her about the steps I've made to expose the affair and she said that it was pointless, that she's never heard of MB's concept working. So that leads me to ask, how often does this work? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Tell her we have "heard" otherwise. I am living proof so now she has "heard" of at least one person. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> But hey, if she knows of a BETTER WAY, then ask for her statistical proof and go for it! Count me as living proof. Even if a marriage is not saved, MB give you the tools to rely/protect yourself from the wayward's insanity...which, imo, counts as a success also. - Kimmy
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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I didn't even read the post yet...just the title...
did he mean to say...
ATTORNEY SAYS MB DOESN'T MAKE MONEY FOR HIM!!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
MB...a divorce lawyers worst nightmare... sending his chance for a new beamer straight to [email]he@@[/email]
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MB...a divorce lawyers worst nightmare... sending his chance for a new beamer straight to [email]he@@[/email] Bwaaahahahahha! Maybe that should be MB's new slogan! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Me-BS-38 Married 1997; son, 8yo Divorced April 2009
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It works for some, doesn't work for all.
I have no idea for what percentage it does work.
I worked with Steve Harley until I just flat out ran out of money due to the mound of debt left by WW, paying her support and trying to survive myself.
I did everything he asked, was given good feedback. I continued on with MB'ing, after about three months of the affair and her out of the house, gave her the plan B letter after a pretty good plan A under the supervision of SH, and yet I am divorced.
So from a saving the marriage standpoint, MB didn't work for me.
It works for some, doesn't work for all.
What we don't know is does it work for more than it doesn't work for?
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