I can't believe it's been 6 months since d-day! Time has flown by and my life has changed so drastically since my H went wayward. Thinking about all the time that has passed puts me in a really terrible mood. Until I hear otherwise, it is my assumption that WH is still in this romantic A. I'm so sad, frustrated and angry all over again. Why can't my WH snap out of this one?

hi ready,

6 months seems like a long time and short time at the same time, huh? If that makes sense. I'm 5 months out and it's still a big in-between time. Not far enough away but not that close either. In-between, and it sucks.

It's better than crying every day but it's also harder because it's a time of enduring and perseverance. I'm still married yet not married. I'm not divorced yet she's gone.

As far as I know her lover/sex partner is still around. The romance must be fabulous (not really). Because it doesn't matter what she's doing, it's worthless knowledge at this point.

Instead of waiting or wondering when your WH will snap out of his stupidity, let him go instead. Right now he is being a tool. Let him be and just keep concentrating on healing and moving through this season of your life. You will come out a stronger and wiser woman when it is finished.

Corinth

ready,

Time does not heal all wounds. What you do in that time might.

What have you done with this time to help you heal. Right now you can't concentrate on healing the M but you can use that time to become a stronger wiser person.

ready,

I am 3 months in and am having the same feelings. It seems like just when you can wrap your mind around the situation, it all hits you again like a ton of bricks.

I too feel like Corinth13, stuck in the in-between. Every day seems harder and easier at the same time.

Focus on the One who gives strength, because there really is no other source of peace or sound mind. I keep trying to remind myself of this as the days have seemed so dark lately. I am having trouble focusing on a daily basis. I get glimpses of the hope and it carries me through the next few hours. I know that the hope will soon return in full force but I am waiting for that time. It becomes especially hard to focus during those times where the reality of the situation presents itself so bluntly... re the reminders from my Wh that he is not interested in my life or our kids lives.

But I have a future and a hope and nothing my WH can say or do alters that. You have that same hope!!!

I understand where you all are coming from. I too am in Plan B and have had no contact with my WW for nearly 2 months. Just when I think things are looking up and I feel like I am doing well with myself I get hit hard with the overcoming emotions. I remind myself, however, how it used to be. How nearly debilitating these emotions were in the beginning and how difficult they were to overcome. Now these feelings seem much more like a speedbump rather than a mountain. Still difficult to climb over at this pace but much more easily attained.

Thank you to all who responded. It's reassuring to not feel alone during this very dark time. This in-between stage is just the pits. I don't feel married yet I don't feel single. I feel rejected, unloved and disrespected by my WH. I am still on a rollercoaster with my emotions. Right when I have felt less attached to my sitch, a wave of grief washes over me. I hate that the reminders are still there. I dread telling people that my M has failed.

I am trying to become stronger on my own but the confidence comes and go so unexpectedly.

Thank you so much for your feedback and input. I am truly fortunate to have you all as my MB friends.