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So spill it!

I AND my buttered popcorn await

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Dang, my ears were not burning for no reason...

Well, what can I say, y'all are gonna have a field day with me on this one (as would I with you, of course)...

All I can say is that in a moment of stupidity/boredom/too much time on my hands, I signed up for a free 3 day trial on Match, forgetting how women seem to flock to me like flies to, uh, honey (and no, I don't mean this in a conceited way, I think that's what I get for having the "I'm a really boring family guy so all you wild women stay away" profile - sorry mlhb <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> ).

So of course I instantly remembered how much I am not interested (at this point) in the whole let's e-mail/let's talk on phone/let's meet thing with 4-5 women at a time (I lose track of who is who), so I quickly hid my profile.

But of course, not so quickly as to not make contact with 2-3 ladies, yikes...

So last night I met with one of them (after already regretting the whole thing, and telling the other 3 that I want to spend some more time alone - and BTW, was it ever telling to see their reactions - some said "sure, no problem", others went with the "drop dead" approach <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> ).

Anyway, I liked S, what can I say... Nice lady, pretty, employed, smart, active and likes to hike (hehe), morning person (haha), lived for 6 years with a guy with two kids similar to my kids' ages and seemed to love it, etc. That's about all I know for now.

As I left, I was sure she was not interested (I have that effect on women too), which wasn't going to be any skin off my bones. But after I sent her the requisite "thanks for the evening, had a nice time, hope you did too" e-mail, she wrote that she really enjoyed my company, would like to chat with me again, and that hearing from me made her happy. So, obviously, I don't understand women.

Anyway, the way I see it now, is that this is good. For a change, I did not spend a month e-mailing with someone before ever meeting htem, and thus establishing all sorts of "expectations". So if I see her again, it'll be closer to the good old fashioned dating of simply spending time with someone and seeing if it works.

Unlike G, who I already thought might be "the one" after only two dates (but also two months of very close communication), I think I will be able to see S one date at a time and hopefully not let things get too far ahead of me. Famous last words, I know.

OK, ready for the 2x4's (not from you, mlhb, you should be supporting my wild lifestyle).

AGG

"back in the saddle again......" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Well, I have to say, I'm surprised yet not. Not going to give you too hard of a time b/c, well, like you said in another post, you seem pretty "over" G, over in the sense that you know, in your gut, she's not the one---no unanswered questions, no angst, you've anaylzed and dissected to your hearts content, no grieving left, um, ungrieved(? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />)and you seem pretty ok w/ it all. So I pronounce you healed. Go forth and prosper! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

No seriously, Mssr Pot <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />, tread carefully....not necessarily for yourself, but for your potential dates out there. Some are looking, really looking for something permanent, and I dunno AGG, I just don't think you are quite there yet, ya know? Are you ready to casually date? Sure seems like it! But for anything more? I don't think so. I can just SO see how this new "que sera sera" AGG would be SO appealing to the masses.

That being said, I LIKE this new "eh, whatevah" AGG! Welcome to the club <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

no 2x4's but i am so not sure where you are getting that i am "wild" from just because i met someone HERE and am building on a great relationship with him. i am honestly pretty boring. i take care of my twins, who are 9, i go to school full time and work as director of an after school program for grades k-5. i aslo fit substitute teaching in there as well. my days are pretty full and at night i boringly come home, check email and this site, talk to gekko, and drop into bed by 9. that may be wild for you agg but for most of the world that is just plain boring! lol

i will not hit you over the head. but after this you daredevil, no more comments on me and gekko got it! and we talked for over 5 months before ever meeting! and i almost think, after doing the "old fashioned" thing in a marriage that didn't work, that i like the fact we talked so long before meeting, not because i had expectations, but because when we did meet i truly felt no awkwardness, i truly felt like i knew him, and because of that conversation flowed smoothly. (major run on sentence there) i will say this, you only live once so for cyring out loud, don't be so analytical and just go with it! life is too short! you had a good time, and so did she, so keep going and see what happens.

good for you agg.
mlhb

This all sounds good AGG.

Sorry to hear G has apparently gone off the deep end. The love me for who I am then look I'm just what you said you want is sad really.

I'm exactly where you are regarding match. I rarely check it & when I do it's with no enthusiasm. My time is up soon so I'll just ride it out.

Sounds good AGG. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Hey if you're ever willing to share your profile, I'd be interested in seeing it. I'd like to make mine more boring if that's the response you get...

DW:


Yup, that about sums it up.


I had to think about this a bit. Here is how I see myself - these days, fresh from a breakup, I am not looking for something permanent, not in the active sense (1.5 days on Match notwithstanding). But, I am most definitely open to something permanent if it falls on my lap, because I do want to be married again (no comment wiftty!). So I don't know that the two are all that incompatible - I may not be desperate (like some of the "lookers" are), but I am certainly open and ready for it. Ya know?


Nah, I don't want that. That's why I declined the other 3-4 women. I do plan to date S (assuming she doesn't disappear, wouldn't be the first time) casually, but in the sense of going slowly and not making a bunch of projected assumptions, like I did with G. Make sense?


Ah, yeah, that's the new me, you bet <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />!


mlhb:


Hehe, I'll try, but no promises <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />.


Well, no fair, you say not to talk about you and him and then proceed to talk about you and him, how can I resist? OK, let me clarify something - I sure hope things for you and gekko work out, I really do. Just because I have my reservations, does not mean I don't wish the best for you. Got it? In some ways, what you are describing with gekko is how I started with G (and I am not saying this to imply that it will be wrong for you, just to illustrate the danger of thinking you "know" someone through regular not-in-person contact). I "knew" her for 2 months through e-mail and phone, and you know how easy it is to build up "feelings" when you are connecting that way. You see eye to eye on everything, you get each other, the other person seems flawless. Then we met, and wow, the chemistry was there, she was so easy to talk to (because I already "knew" her). Then she went away for three weeks, but we stayed in intense e-mail and phone contact (because of all the great feelings and connection), and by the time she came back, we were on our third date but felt like we have been in a relationship for three months, and were an item. All before I even saw her place, ahem. Sound familiar, Ms."I'm in a relationship for 7 months and have seen him twice"? All I am saying is that a relationship where you spend way more time chatting and e-mailing than you do seeing each other is very different from a day-to-day, seeing each other on the good and bad days, let it all hang out, kind of relationship. LDRs are very very hard and very tricky - BTDT. But if you can make it work, I'll be the third in line cheering, really! Anyway, sorry to digress, but you brought it up <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />.

nams:

Yup <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />.


Yeah, I hate that feeling of being unenthusiastic about the whole thing. If that's how you feel, it is probably time for a break, just like I was planning on doing until I slipped <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />.

BigGuy:


Hehe, sure thing, since you're not in my neck of the woods and won't be competing with me, no problem <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. Lemme know your e-mail, I'll send you a link to my profile (I'll need to unhide it first).

AGG

Hey now guys, no sneaking around the board, we all want to see!

K!

It sounds like a nice meet/date and you're lucky to have found a good find so fresh into the whole Match thing. I have not had the same luck and everytime I "think" about going there, I must remind myself of my luck. Happy for ya AGG!

on to my latest.....

At the risk of Thread-jacking.......

I have my own junk going on with an xbf these days, from over a year and a half ago.
Some may remember, some not, my angst over this relationship, which by all means was too soon. He wanted a committment. I was smart enough to know I wasn't ready for that yet. Felt like flags were there, but he was so good to me and my girls, blah, blah, blah.

Well, a new man has moved into town, who happens to live in the same neighborhood as a couple of my friends. He also happens to work at the same place xbf does. All of these folks meet in their environments, neighbors meet, the guys meet at work.
My name is tossed out by my friends that they have a single friend...
Well, xbf tells of me also, but says......
he had to break up with me because I was pushing for marriage and he was not ready for that.

Was is that all about? Is this an ego thing? or is it knowing there would be a chance we could meet someday because of the friends/neighbors? Go figure.

K!

Thanks! You can send it to... big.guy@insightbb.com

Sounds like sour grapes to me. That, or he's trying to scare off the competition. Has XBF expressed an interest in dating again?

Oh, and before you know it, we'll get into the "I'll show you mine if you show me yours" game, won't we... And who on earth would want to go there? Besides, Harley would probably ban our sorry butts from the forum if we start posting our dating profiles <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

Eeek, sounds like you read him right the first time when you thought there were red flags all around. Of course there are usually three sides to every story, but in this case, it sounds like he is revising history to make himself look better at your expense. Red flag, no doubt.

AGG

I'm sorry for the continuation of the threadjack DW & AGG....


Yes, as a matter of fact he has, 3X to be exact. Each time, me telling him, I would like to "try" again, not knowing if we could get past the old stuff to make it work, but I wanted to give it a shot. However, only AFTER his, [are you ready?] Divorce was final. After our last and final break up, he got married 4 months later. It lasted 3 weeks, and he was getting a divorce. The desolve of his marriage happened last December, and it's taking until this December to get a divorce. Something sounds a little off here to me!

Thanks BigGuy!

K!

Uh, danger, mayday, warning!!! You don't really want to date this guy, do you?? He sounds like a major "bad news" person to me, K, I think you should look elsewhere <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

I think I forgot the rules to playing that game!

Good one AGG! I think you're right though, I don't want to ruin a good thing that the Harleys have begun. However.....

....now that BigGuys posted his address for ALL to see, Well now.......

I know, I know......But you know how someone gets into your heart and you want to believe that the good you saw was that good? That what I felt thus the many break ups on my end. But each time of trying, the Flags were always the same.
If he would have told this guy, she was messed up during our dating time.... that would have been more accurate than the statement of my pushing for marriage. Crazy!

K~

Hmmm... a handsome fellow if I do say so myself. Good, honest, direct profile. Not a bit surprised that you get a lot of interest.

Such a tease BigGuy!

Yikes!! Sounds like you did well to have missed that one.