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Anniversary coming up
#1758119 10/13/06 11:46 AM
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My anniversary is in 2 weeks. Not really interested in it since the D-Day was last anniversary when I had to cancel plans I made for us after she told me she was going to a girlfriends with several other friends that day. Turned out they went to the place I planned to take her. I was going to surprise her but I was surprised.

Anyway, what should I do if anything about this year's anniversary? Divorce is filed, but she is not pursuing it. Just still is pursuing the OM.

Card, present, nothing?
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I would send a card to the OM/OMW. Have them give it to her if she is with him that day.

But that is evil isn't it? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

My BS and I will probably not celebrate our wedding anniversary any more, she feels that day is tainted. But we do celebrate our DDay. That is the day we discovered ourselves and how we really wanted to save this M of ours.

But no. I would not give her anything. Unless it was providing reverse babble.
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lousygolfer #1758121 10/15/06 05:00 AM
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I was trying to read your threads to see where you are but they are hard to follow. You are generally better off sticking with one thread rather than posting a new thread each time something occurs to you.

I'm not sure your exact situation. If you are in Plan A and she is behaving nicely, I would definitely get a card, flowers, etc. You sometimes have to suck it up and be the husband in spite of the obvious triggers.

On the other hand if you are in Plan A and she is behaving badly, I would get her a card only but I would get her a card that says "Happy Anniversary" on the envelope but "Wish you were here" on the card itself. If you think I'm joking, I'm not. I would do that in a heartbeat.

I recommend you consolidate your threads and update your sitch and just stay with one thread from here on out.
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Hoe about giving her the divorce papers as an aniversery ptesent??

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