OK, I had more spare time tonight, and went to a few 'find singles' sites.
Spent 2,5 hours <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> and found nobody I (think I) can like. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

So, I'm curious now (and often <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />): do you read all (ALL??) or you first see a photo, then being 'attracted', read the profile?

Because 'first photo then reading' didn't work for me (do I have to move to another area?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />), I tried opposite way, but that worked even less.

Also, I'm so disapointed that... well, I always say that the look is not SO important, yet, tonight... it looks that I 'refuted' that theory (of mine)... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

SO, my dear ones, do I have to move, wait, do something different, or not to join the club at all? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/ooo.gif" alt="" />

I.e. how do you select them?

First I always take the profiles on the 'shop till you drop' singles sites like match or yahoo with a grain of salt. A few paragraphs and a couple photos doesn't even begin to tell me about a person. For that reason I tend to cast a wide net. But still, it's a process of elimination for me.

I. Do they live within an hour of me?

of those;

A. Does their photo catch my eye? or
B. Is their profile intelligently written? or
C. Is their profile original? or
D. Does their profile convey a sense of humor?

and

1. Have they checked their profile within the few days.

If those conditions are met, those are the ones I send the best short, witty, relevant email I can muster.

Well, depending what site you're on, you can do a search to match some criteria (age, marital history, kids, religion, height, weight, and even hair color), and then go by the pictures in the filtered group. Of course you can't filter the really important stuff, like are they nice, good hearted, honest, etc... So I guess you're stuck with looking at pictures and THEN reading the profiles!

That's why I hate that search part <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />. 2.5 hours is nothing, I can spend half a day clicking through profiles if I am not careful - which is why I re-hid my profile after my one day of being wild <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

As well you (we) should... Many sites now offer professional services for writing the perfect profile, along with glamour shot services. Ugh...

AGG

sometimes there are plenty of eligible good men right here in our after divorce dating forum.... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

hehe

mlhb

LOL but most of them don't live in my area...just my luck!

Hey, back off ladies.. I already have first dibs on BigGuy, we'll just have to figure out which one of us would move.. oh, and which one would get the sex change. OK, I am choosing to move, your turn Big! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

AGG

yea, you and big guy are getting perrrty close there agg...

whatever your thing is man, i don't judge! lol

rather NOT hear the details of THAT union tho! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

mlhb

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

Ha!! You may hunt me down, but you'll never find me!

Besides, high heels just kill my feet... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

LOL! you two kill me!!! How about just cloning yourselves and sending them to us women!!!

Clearly I haven't picked any keepers because here I am on Sat. night in front of my computer.

How do I go about choosing profiles to look at? A few factors. Not necessarily in order:

distance from me
picture (are they smiling, do they have their clothes on)
I'll usually scroll down to check out factors I consider important.
If things look pretty good I'll read the profile

Hm
I did A and nothing, I did B, C & D and a few were good, then back to A, and... forget B, C & D. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

Well, I continued this morning.
AND found a guy I liked (his look, that is). The rest was so so OK.
Lives in the same city where I work <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />
BUT, he's younger than me, never been married, and wants the family and kids.
I guess he has prejudice of women my age being able to be the mother again, also he wouldn't like if I say I'm just OK not having another child either.
I do look younger (no kidding & no bragging <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />) and if he sees me I know I wouldn't have a problem... but if I let's say pay to send him a mail... and when I state my age... he'd run away I'm afraid.
Yet, cannot lie my age, right?
Hm.
Or I avoid age question, meet him, then... sorry, too late? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Another thing - I noticed I was more 'attracted' to younger guys... (older than me are too old <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />) for me, that is <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

OMG, I just nearly died - I looked too quickly at nams' post and thought she meant that she glances at the pictures, and if the guys have no clothes on, then she scrolls down to check out their "factors" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />. That's what I get for reading too fast <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

I did. (Perfectmatch, match, yahoo)
Then when I saw I liked no one, I just entered for any criteria an 'any' <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> and saw all of them... the rest you know :-(

Right!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. That'd definitely be a dealbreaker for me, even though it seems to be commonly done around here.

AGG

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />


From my experience, dear, there are other ways your legs look longer. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

I just got in from my big "night out". How many ways can I spell pathetic?

We went to a place that actually was trying to sign us up for a wet t-shirt contest, for $50 no less.

I am doomed in this state.

Hope you all have better luck on the sites.

K!

The more I think the more I see, no sites for me.
Will revive some 'old-fashioned' way to meet someone, just let me remember them <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />