I very much agree here.

There is a saying in sales that applies here:

"THE NEXT ONE TO SPEAK LOSES"

Allow the silience to do your bidding. This is/may be a battle of wills. Allow your presentation to gestate a bit and when she does contact you wait for her to address the "situation". Do not give the slightest indication of any possible negotiation. Stand firm and like a salesmen...ask for the close again and be silent. Allow the ackward silence to unknowingly pressure your customer/wife to take the ONLY offer on table. It's the only way out for her and deep down she knows it. You know YOU (the product) are valuable...don't sell yourself short. Desparate salesmen become unemployed or simply starve.

Even if she isn't buying today...she'll be back mostly likely; and, if not, you just saved yourself even more agony of a false recovery. Either way...YOU recover with or without her in proper form and in due time.

Mr. Wondering

I know you all ready sent the letter and I know she hasn't responded (yet).

I just wanted to point out this one, quick thing in case she does respond.


Be very careful about telling her how she feels or will feel. It comes across as being very controlling. Focus instead on how you feel or what needs to be done (the line about not having time to do what needs to be done was excellent).

The rest of the letter was very good and I don't think that one line made any significant difference -- I just wanted to give you this feedback in case you get a future opportunity.

I agree with the others in this -- the next one to speak wins!

Mys

Well, its been over a week and i've received no response. My MIL has also informed me that WW has started a new job in a new field. This doesn't exactly sound like someone who is considering coming back home.

I've gone from being gainfully detatched to vulnerable and raw. I'm fighting the urge to call her and try to "convince" her to come home (which is stupid, i know).

I'm at a loss.

What the H E L L do i do?

I'm so sorry you're in pain.

Deep down, you have to know that calling her isn't going to do you any good. Stay the course and stay dark.

Try and do something nice for yourself, if you can.

Mys