I have been with my wife for 16 years now and we have three kids. I have never showed my true love to her they why I should have. She has fallen out of love with me and or has no love for me anymore, by her words. This is all my fault and I take blame for it but at this time she is having a hard time thinking there is anything worth saving. This is the first time I have felt in my hart the true love I have for her and I think it is to late. I was never there for her like I should have been but she is my world and want her to feel my love and love me agin. Over the years I drove her away because I couldnt show her support in the way she wanted. I just did'nt know how at the time or did not think it was that big of a problem. I just dont know what I can do, I said I am sorry so many time now. I have let her know that I am no longer that man that caused her so much pain in the past. I am doing everything I can to show her how much I love her and are kids and want this to work for the sake of all involed. What should I do?

Read His Needs/Her Needs (HN/HN) for starters. Might she be having an affair? "I love you but not in love with you" is typical speech of someone having an affair.

Help- She took it too for 16 years. You are willing to change. There might be another man. If she is not willing to accept your change then I guess you move on and in the next relationship you be more supportive. That is all I can think of. Johoman