I am wondering lately about the first year anniversary. It was almost a year ago that he asked me for a divorce and I am heart-sick every time I realize this. I know that because of my condition I might be more emotional than before but is it something that kinda hits everyone after they've survived after a year? Or is it that I don't want to ever take my marriage for granted and want to make sure that WE last? Perhaps I am being too anxious considering that we have another on the way but I want to know what you think? Is is a return to that year thing or just me being emotional?<P>------------------<BR>Chick's <BR>Bren<P>You won't see things until your ready to not be blind!<P>

Chick,<P>I have never been pg but have seen my sister and her hormones raging. My guess though is that the first year is hard no matter not pg or pg.<P>My first year mark was very difficult. I feel like we no longer have an aniverary. We go to Nantucket every year around the time and I have grown to hate the place. This last trip I was ready to leave. I mean I packed my bags a couple of times and was on the phone to call a cab. I just hate that place for all it reminds me of. He broke up with the one main OW right before we left for Nantucket. So the next year in Nantucket was our one year mark for the relationship and the affair. This last trip to Nantucket was at the tail end of his second batch of affairs. <P>For labour day weekend I convencied him to go to Marth's Vineyard instead. Funny thing I actually had fun. I was relaxed and could enjoy myself. So from now on no more Nantucket. So the one year mark for me was really awful. I am guessing the second plus one year make is going to be bad as well. Tell him how you feel and why you feel that of way.<P>In Martha's I really told him why I hate Nantucket. And you know what he really understood why I do hate that place and though he loves it there he will not go there untill I am ready. We will see what happens next summer.<P>Hang in there it is not just you.

chick's<BR>I am just at the beginning of about 7 months worth of one year marks. I'm nervous too. We'll be okay!!!<BR>I just keep trying to say "Thank goodness this is so different from a year ago."<BR>I have asked my H to make a special effort on my B-day this month and for Xmas and New Year's since they have so many bad memories.<BR>Last week we had our son's annual football supper. Last year was a horrible memory. My H was just beginning his affair and was a real jerk to me. I wanted to replace those bad memories this year. <BR>When the day came this year H phoned from work and said he had to work late. I was so disappointed. But you know what? I went alone. Had a great time and got rid of those bad memories all by myself!!!!!!<BR>It's going to only get BETTER <p>[This message has been edited by wasstubborn (edited October 05, 1999).]