Dr. and Mrs. Harley, I just caught your show and I must say with all due respect, are you naive' or dishonest? You said anger is insanity and has no value. A very good book, The Dark Side of Love, says anger is a valid emotion and necessary to motivate positive change in one's life. Even Jesus became angry. Secondly, why don't you be honest with Mr. 47 yrs. old, His wife is a slut. She is dressing in that manner, hanging out with women(and men)half her age, at bars till the wee hours, and you suggest he should romance her back? Who are you kidding? She has had sex(probably unprotected), each and every time she has gone out! Better to tell Mr. 47 to wake up, smell the pheromones and get a divorce. But then that kind of advice wouldn't sell very many books, would it? I'm no expert but a woman who WANT'S this kind of entertainment is not likely to acquire a taste for bowling,cards,movies or passionless sex from her husband. Are you really saying that intimacy and passion can be regained or relearned once lost?

The Harleys don't post here, so they won't be responding to your questions/comments. I don't have a chance to listen to the radio show, but I suspect that what was said was along the lines of, "Angry Outbursts have no value," rather than, "Anger has no value." Angry Outbursts are verbal assaults, Love Busters that damage and destroy relationships.

To answer your last question: Yes, intimacy and passion can be regained or relearned once lost. There are many examples of it here. Stick around and read the information on this site. Read this discussion board. This particular board isn't very active, though - you'll get more attention on Emotional Needs (or, for infidelity issues, General Questions II).

And, last but not least: Welcome. Whatever brings you here, you'll find tools to build and/or restore your most important relationships.