Does anyone happen to know if an employer can give social security number to family member so she can get child support.

Husband worked for ow dad, when i found out about a and pregnancy i wanted to get as far away from her as possible and gave h the choice if he wanted to come w/me. he did. so the only way i can think of how she got his ssn was dad.

Was DNA done to prove OC is your H's? I believe it would be illegal for OW father to do so but it is possible. You don't need the SS number to file for support through the state/county whatever. All you need is some basic information.

No way to prove it. Her father and her will deny it and come up with another alternative like she copied from a tax return one day during the affair. There are a million ways to find someone's social security number.

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Your hubby will be perceived as a dead-beat dad that fled to escape his personal obligations to pay child-support...hence, no one will care how she got it and congratulate her for doing so.

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They may even secretly tell her father they'd do the same thing and congratulate him for skirting the law...wink, wink, nudge, nudge

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It likely isn't a crime for him to give it to his daughter

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Even if you could civilly sue him for breaching your privacy, what are your damages??? A legitimate debt does not constitute damages.


Thus, don't sweat it...just deal with the issues as they come and hopefully your husband allows YOU to handle it all. You may think it's his mess and he should have to clean it up but that may just be placing him in contact with OW again. You need to be the intermediary here as much as possible.

Mr. Wondering

it really pains me to know that the other woman will get congratulated for getting child support and being a homewreaker. she KNEW he was married b/c she befriended me at the same time and all i get is a lifetime of pain b/c i don't have any money to go get some counseling. he child gets to have birthday parties and my two children can't b/c she gets any extra money we have. and i don't care if my husband will be a dead beat dad to a child that should've never existed. b/c he takes care of our children. i can't and will never accept it. i feel like i was a virgin and got raped and can't get that innocence back. i can't talk about this stuff w/husband b/c i'm trying to get on like it never happened. i think about it everyday and can't stop.