Is it OK to pointblank ask WW if OM comes to her to continue the relationship , despite being married, would she?
then look her dead in the face.
if she asks why?
i would reply "i cannot take such a painful blow in my life"
is this OK?
She will give you the answer she thinks you want to here or maybe she won't.
Does it matter..........is she's ww?...........then she's a liar.
Thats just the way it is.
The people that have been coaching you here are good at this because.
A*** they have been doing this with a new poster everyday for years now.
B***they have read many more posts than you and I ever will...ie:been there seen that.
C***They have watched me (and others) not follow the advice here and suffer the consequences.(sp)
D***They have seen people that do follow the advice here and be sucessfull.
E***all of this stuff there asking you to do will help you later on in recovery.
F***oh....I think you get where I'm going here.
They get a little frustrated with people (like me) for asking for help and then being to scared to do what it takes.
Then months from now you will be just like me, just like hopethisworks, just like papaof3, just like...on and on and on.
We've all been down the road your trying to decide if you want to travel.
Stop thinking about today or tomorrow....think long term.
You have the best chance to save your marriage RIGHT NOW!
These people that are helping you aren't trying out new things to see if they work or not.
Your not a lab rat.
They know what works and what don't work.
They are SURE about it.
I hope this gives you a little more faith in Marriage Builders.
Is it scarey? HeII yes it is.
Will there be screaming? You bet!
Will someone lose there job? Most likely!
AHHH the big question.....
Will they blame you??????
This is the dumbest question we bs's ask ourselves.
There is absolutely no way that anyone will blame you for THERE affair.
If they do then there either a ww or om.
Was this your fault? HeII no!!!
They chose to cheat...you choose to heal.
How do you heal??
One word
EXPOSE!
I'm done ranting now...Good luck to you.
We will all be praying for you.
Jeff