My kids told me that my EX took back all the house keys, garage door opener to the house and changed her phone number. (Married OM is still trying to contact her apparently though)
It took her over 4yrs to realize this fools used her big time.....broke up her marriage promising they would be together. My EX divorces me and he decides to be a cake eater. The statistics are correct, most affair relationships flame out horribly after awhile.

(ANYHOW)

I met my EXs *NEW* b/f this past weekend. He seems OK from first appearances....and my kids seem to like him. They must have fallen pretty fast, they were all lovey dovey, holding hands.....all the NEW love things people do. Lets see how things are going in 6mo.

I hope it goes well though, I dont want my kids to have to me a new guy every two weeks.

"I met my EXs *NEW* b/f this past weekend. He seems OK from first appearances....and my kids seem to like him. They must have fallen pretty fast, they were all lovey dovey, holding hands.....all the NEW love things people do. Lets see how things are going in 6mo.

I hope it goes well though, I dont want my kids to have to me a new, I dont want my kids to have to me a new guy every two weeks"

NOTE: Unfortunately it sounds as if your EX is someone with real mental issues and self esteem and self worth issues to go along with what is likely entitlement and selfishness problems. She finally figured out the OM (only 4.5 years too late!!!!!!!) and now she is already hotty toddy with a new boyfriend, acting like teenagers. This is not healthy and certainly not the actions of someone that "learned" anything from having an affair, destroying her family, trying to destroy another man's family, having it fall apart no matter how much in love they were, etc. And, she reacts by finding a new boyfriend to cuddle, hold hands, with., etc. She is searching outside herself and her own soul for something or someone to "make her happy", to make her "feel good".

She is destined for a life of one man after another IMO. This is unfortunate for your children. Thank God they have you as a rock in all of this.

I don't think it is unusual at all that your x has found a new BF so soon.

I am sure that the new BF is a rebound relationship to help her feel better, and what better way to do so than to have another relationship with all those wonderful addicting chemicals.

I think its great that your kids like the new guy. Hopefully he is a good person and deserviing of their love.


Take care,

k.d.'s heartbreak

Wow.....you are sooooooo correct. I have been knowing this for years (even when we were married). My EX craved attention from not only guys but anyone who cared to notice her. She always wanted to be the loud one at a party or hog the attention from important people at social gatherings.

My EX was on dating websites as soon as she broke up with her b/f of 4.5yrs.....then she was going out all the time trying to meet someone.....I guess she did.

It was so funny how she was all flaunting this guy around when I met him....we were at an event. The were sitting all close, and holding hands......it was kinda <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Anyhow, thanks for the kind words kdheartbreak.....I hope this one last a lil while for my kids sake.