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Well Im new here....Anyways, My husband and I have been separated for about 2 months now. He is the one who decided to separate and he actually moved next door to his mom's house...Well shortly after that the company he works for moved him to another store which is an hour and a half away...he was doing the commute.......Anyways about 2 weeks ago he moved to a motel in that town....A week or so ago, a girl moves in with him. She is his friend's ex girlfriend. I have never met her. My husband says they have not slept together only kissed.....My thought is why would she move an hour plus away from where she was living to be with him if it wasn't serious? I do love my husband, but Im not sure what to do..Im not sure what he wants to do either..he doesnt want to talk about it.
Should I wait until the relationship with her runs its course? I dont think it will last long at all but who knows. I know that my actions are a lot of the cause for dh's wanting to be separated. He wasn't perfect either. We have 2 children(age 3 and almost 2) and a baby due in January. I was a SAHM but am now having to work a minimum wage job b/c I am afraid of not having money......
Any advice? Am I being desperate for wanting to stay with him? I truly love him, but I just dont know if I should wait it out...file for divorce(or at least separation)? Ive asked him about marital counseling and he said no he doesnt like to talk about things with other people........Im so confused, depressed, and just stressed out!
Me-Katie-Age 22
DH-Bryan-Age 23
OW-Mandi UGH...Friend turned More(was actually his best friend's girlfriend)
DD's-Age 3 1/2 and 2.
DS-Expecting a baby boy on January 14, 2007.
Separation(lived at his mom's)-September 2006
Separation(moved into motel)-October 20(day after he stayed out all night with a "friend"...who turned out to be mandi.
D-Day-October 29-Found out OW living with him in the motel
Currently in Plan A.
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Joined: Oct 2005
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Welcome to MB.
Start off by reading the infidelity FAQ's linked below and the Plan A link. Read also Longhorns thread also linked.
Be sure your H is involved in a sexual relationship with OW
You need to expose this affair to anyone who can influence your husbands behaviour. It's dispicable of him to do this while you are pregnant.
Please re-post your post to the General Questions II forum - it's busier and you will need the support there.
Me: 56 (FBS) Wife: 55 (FWW)
D-Day August 2005
Married 11/1982 3 Sons 27,25,23
Empty Nesters.
Fully Recovered.
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