Have you taken her before the church? Have they done church discipline on her?

PHB,

HopeandPray is so very right on the money!!

Your WW is totally lost and addicted!! Think of a crack addict who must have her fix.

The only way she will see the light is to hit rock bottom. She will wake up one day to find that she is alone and shunned.

I would seriously start thinking of protecting your assets, keeping your precious child/children AWAY from her, and go very dark with a strong plan B.

This plan B will also help save your sanity and well being. Concentrate on you and your remaining family's well being and consider her GONE!!

Let me also say that I have known of one or two strict Southern Baptists that totally flipped out and went way over to the wild/dark side.

krk

No I havn't taken it before the church but she doesn't come anymore so that is out of the question.

I am doing everything I can to protect myself and my daughter. But I have such a burden for my wife that I hate to see her do this to herself. I mean she was a very dedicated wife for 14 1/2 yrs and I was the only man she had ever been with. I just don't want to see her hurt because I know this loser will drop her when he isn't satisfied anymore and move on and there she will be broken. I don't want to see that happen.

P, who is this guy? What does he do? Have you exposed to his parents?

The guy is my Ex brother in law. His parents probably don't care to much because his Mom has been married 5 times and his dad twice and has lived with 2 different women. I think they are able to go over there and be together and meet no resistance.

I understand. But even though she doesnt go, you as a Christian husband need to take this matter to the church. First off, God tells you to in Scripture. Second, if your church is on track, then they will be very helpful to you (and her) in many ways.

You are gettign great advice here on all of this. But, I would get there to church, sit down with the pastor, and let him know what is going on. And what you expect. That you expect, as it says in Matthew, that the church leadership will confront your wife (in love). And that is she refuses to stop this adultery, that the church will have no choice but to render her a "tax gatherer." An unbeliever.

I know you love her!! But sometimes this is the ONLY way to get thru to her. That she has to hit bottom. That she has to be released from all of her safety nets. God will pursue her then. If you want specific Scripture to back this up, I can give it to you. But suffice it to say, God does have a way to deal with these things.

So, get to the church. Keep moving forward on your Plan A. And protect your daughter. Make sure you are doing everything you can to get/keep custody of her!!

My daugther was talking to her last night and my W asked her to spend a night with her Sat. night. My daughter said if you take me to church Sunday I will. She said ok so I am praying that the Holy Spirit will come over her.

Are there any other things I could trying because I am kinda stuck.

Our pastor is on a mission trip this weekend so I pray that my wife will go to church with her Mom. She goes to a very he-fire and brimstone fundamental bible preaching type of church and I beleive that could effect her heart. Plus all of her family go there. I don't think she will go there but God is still in the miracle business.

Got bad news a few minutes ago.My WW took my daughter to see OM last night with his daughter(who is my niece). Then went to his dad's house and stayed late last night, drove his vehicle home, then switched cars back today at her shop and let the kids play all day. My life as I know it is ending!

Don't stand for her involving your child in her affair. Document this and get your attorney involved if need be. Judge's don't like women and men who involve the children in their little fantasies. Ask your attorney whether you should confront her or not.

Protect your daughter from your WAYWARD wife (not your wife) and her bad judgment, decisions, and immorality and confusion she is creating for this impressionable little girl.

She took a 50B out on me on Monday, so I took one out on her. I talked with my lawyer and now I guess I have to accept the fact she will not come back to me. She totally involved with this loser and doesn't look like she is turning back. Any ideas???

You seriously need to get a lawyer and start taking steps to protect your finances and your daughter.

It is horrible that she is exposing your daughter to this and you can protect her from this through the law.

You absolutely must document everything. There are divorce calendars online which you can use to log dates and times of events. START USING THIS!

Also, accept that you are not dealing with your wife but with someone completely alien. She merely looks like your wife. You are the weak link here because you will want to treat her as you treated your wife and she will take advantage of this.

Since you're a religious man, allow me to put it in religious terms. She's basically possessed. Her actions are being driven by temptation and sin. You are not dealing with your wife, you're dealing with a demon. SHE IS THE ENEMY!

You must protect your daughter. You absolutely have to quit thinking of her as your wife. Your wife is dead.

I know it hurts to hear this, but you have to believe me that this is no longer your wife.

I had my fingers crossed and had hopes and was waiting for my wife to suddenly come to and come back. It never happened and she used this hope I had against me. DONT LET HER DO THIS!

Find a legal way to throw her out.

Brother, you need to go to plan B. Let her go live her fantasy. It will die within a few months. You need to be merciless.

I know it is hard to think of your wife as an enemy, but if you don't, you and your daughter will lose and suffer. Do it for your daughter. She must be protected from this possessed person and her influence and confusion.

I am so sorry you're going through this and I hope your prayers are answered. But the Lord helps those who help themselves. You need a lawyer, not a minister.

Good luck and I hope she wakes up.