I spoke to my husband and my boss (we work together)-he was talking about how he was having the photographer take pictures of the house last night until about 11 but his sister would be there with photographer. I asked if she was able to lock up-I was afraid my husband would have to be there at 11. He said yes she could lock up. Then I said I needed to talk to him-that he didnt need to know all the details but that I needed him to get my husband away from that house. He said he knows thats why he made the comment about having another employee go back to take care of the punch list (stuff that needs to be fixed). I said well make sure you dont let my husband tell you that Mike isnt qualified or whatever. He said he is trying really hard to get my husband away from that house and to all the other job sites we have going. He said he is going to keep him really busy that he doesnt have time to think about anything else. He said he had an inkling about what was going on-I told him I was forbidden from going to the pizza party but the other woman and he said he didnt know that. I said I dont know if she would ever leave her husband but I have been with mine for 18 years and I neber thought this would happen. He said he doesnt think she would leave him. It felt good to get it out. I know its a small step but I think a good idea.

Forgive me JR I don;t know your story. Can you point me at a thread with details please ?

Thanks !!

For a little background-my husband told me in August that he wanted to move out-out of the blue no warning!! He denied the whole time that anyone else was involved but on Oct 19 I found out that he was having an amotional affair with a woman he is building a house for. My husband is a superintendent for a custom home builder and I work in the office. She too is married and has 2 little girls and we have an 11 yo son. He says that she makes him ahave feelings that he never knew he could have etc... He said that we are going to work on our marriage but I know that he still talks to her. The house should have final building occupancy next week so if someone else from our work goes there to fix the few items that need working on there is no reason for him to be in contact with her. I check his cell phone every morning before he goes to work to see what calls they have made to each other. The only problem with that is it only shows the last 10 calls - we have a corporate cell phone acct so they say we cant view activity on line. I have to say that he has been acting a lot better-he calls me to have lunch with him and he seems more affectionate with me and our son -its hard because I want to believe that is a sign he is distancing himself from her and coming back to us but I have had people tell me that he is just keeping all his options open. As far as I know her husband does not know yet.

Oops. I just read your latest post.



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