.......for you to marry your WS or EX or whatever? How does anyone know if your marriage was to be blessed? I see alot of people stating that god intended them to be married to their wayward.....How do you you know that? I mean, what if god was giving you clues all along that he didnt want you to marry your spouse (wayward)???? What about all the negative talk from family and friends about the person and you still married. What about all the clues and hints from things they did prior to marriage that would affect the marriage negatively??? What if god was telling you NOT to marry all along and you did. How was it gods will to marry then? Maybe you went against his will..........*something to think about* <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

I think that God can, and does, bless a marriage, even if it wasn't the person He had set out for you. He gives us the free will to choose who we want to marry, and even if we choose wrong, God works all things to the good for those who love Him. So even if you have chosen the wrong spouse, God still blesses the marriage.

The Bible is pretty clear about His will being keeping a marriage intact over divorce. Even if He was telling you all along not to marry the wrong person, once you are married, I still think it's His preference to save the marriage than see it end.



-AmI.

SO

I have come to believe that the thing waywards want is legitimization of their wrongdoings. I.E. "this may look bad, but my reasons make it less bad, or even good."

WS have affairs because " I never loved you, you were a terrible spouse," etc etc waffle waffle. Its rationalization in order to mitigate their huge wrongdoing - an attempt to legitimize their actions.

Witness also when affairees cohabit they ususally try aggressively to have their WS acceted at the new parent / DIL or SIL / friend into their circle of family and friends.

"look how legiimiate we are ! Don't think about our affair, just look at how "together" we are!"

This " I was destined to be with OP" is just an extension of this IMO.

God didn't want a bunch of robots so he gave us free will , a conscience and a GOOD set of guidance as to how to get the most from life and please Him. I'm pretty sure if it was important to God's plan that we marry a certain person we would witht all the devil-pleasing stuff of an affair. I Do think it is God's plan that once married we stay together if at all possible.

StartingOver - It was God's will to have a relationship with all of Mankind, but Mankind chose to "have their cake and try to eat it too."

God provided all of Mankind with the one and only "bridegroom" that is acceptable for a "marriage" with Him. Again, Mankind chooses.

God's "blessings" are for His people when we are not talking about "general and common" blessings, such as rain and sunshine that are given to all. God gave Mankind the blessing of marriage, and Mankind has very often sought to abuse and corrupt it.

At whose feet SHOULD any blame be lain for sin and sinful choices, regardless of being a believer or not?

Something else to think about.

God bless.

I don't like getting into talks about God's "will," because it can rapidly turn into a talk about predestiny and such. If our lives were predetermined, if we all just acted out God's "will," then there really is no such thing as free-will and we're all just parts in a (rather demented) ongoing soap-opera.

I refuse to believe that. God may have desires as to what he wants to see happen in the world, but I think he probably has much more important things to deal with than people on an individual basis.

But that's just my humble opinion.

SO,

Just a few passages from Scripture to help this discussion:





The New Testament teaching regarding divorce and remarriage can be summarized like this: When a man and woman marry, they enter into a lifetime covenant in which God binds or joins them, holding them accountable to keep this covenant. If there is a divorce for some cause other than fornication, God's will is violated; and if either or both remarry, the second marriage relationship(s) is (are) adultery because God still holds the people bound to the first marriage commitment. If during the first marriage, however, one companion commits fornication, then the other companion may choose to obtain a divorce and remarry without sin.

There is more...but I hope this helps.