If you have been reading my posts i'm currently in an awkward postion that I believe now can only be worked out between me and the BM. I currently handle ALL finances for the household and child support would of course be one of the household finances. my s/o is to much of a chicken to confront BM so we came to the aggreement that i would. But now I'm not sure if it's even my place to do so. I have spoken to her only once since him and I have been together and the last time I spoke with her she has a bad habit of trying to downgrade someone and manipulate the situation in order to get what she wants. The last time i actually spoke with her she was nasty but in a nice way. She made it a point 3 years ago to tell me that i was only with my s/o until she got ready to have him back then I would be a feather in the wind. i can't lie that did actually crush some of my confidence but here we 3 years later still together at the moment but given my situation right now(refer to all of my previous posts to get the full details posted under my s/o wrote his ex a letter) my plan is to #1 set some boundaries dealing with the situation and I feel that some sort of formal agreements should be made concerning child support and visitation for my s/o 5 year old son who lives with BM. My s/o who hates confrontation does not want to go through the court system so to make it easier for me i need advice on how i should go about this in approaching her if she's bitter or difficult to deal with.