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So here is a radical concept that I want to throw out to people out there. My wife still wants for us to be married or even divorced with me raising the kids in our house. Should I even consider this and still try the concepts Dr. Harley has on her?
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Duro- What is the "radical" concept? You getting custody of the house and the kids? or staying married? What??
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Just being in the same house with her and possibly not being married. I can't stand to think of her with another man? Should I do this in the hope that I can get her back?
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Is she having an affair?
This sounds like a very typical example of cake eating to me.
'Lets stay together for the kids. You can offer me friendly emotional support, and I can go out and see whichever men I want to in the meantime.'
It's a recipe for extreme emotional pain for you if you agree to something like this.
Alph.
Me, BS 37
Him, WXH (Noddy) 40
DD13, DD6
Married 14th August 1993
D/Day 2nd April 05
Noddy left us 3rd April 05, lives with OW (Omelette) 28
Divorce final 6th July '06.
Time wounds all heels... - Groucho Marx
...except when it doesn't. - Graycloud
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Dura--Sounds like your wife is on a different planet (or you are). If her seeing other men bothers you maybe you still love her (but maybe the "her" you love does not exist in reality). People do change and sometimes sadly it is not the way you want them to change. Like an other post said you may be setting yourself up for extreme pain. I believe true love also is a measure of respect for self and the right for certain level of care and treatment. Settling for crumbs is masochism. johoman
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