It hasn't been a very fun 3 to 5 months since I lasted posted, but it hasn't been all bad either.
I've stayed in individual counseling and it's helped. My wife still claims to not be "in love" with me, and has recently added that she doesn't find me attractive nor does she respect me. (while not important, I think I'm a rather ok looking fellow that some women would find reasonably attractive).
My counselor did meet with my wife and felt that after talking to her that there was actually some real hope in saving the marriage. He didn't feel that way prior to the meeting. My wife has started to "crash" and is very depressed. Doctor D feels this is a good thing, it means she is finally dealing with her situation and isn't using me as an escape goat. While he says he hates the term, he does feel that my wife is going through a mid-life crisis and will most likely come out of it regretting her actions and decisions. My wife is finally seeking counseling.
Still, she continues to work with the OM and thus will not allow our marriage to fully recover.
All that said, given some of the baby steps we have taken forward I'm not sure that there has not been too much damage done. The recent incident with my wife finding my recorder in her car could set us way back, and possibly send her back to her attorney.
My plan has been to not do anything to give my wife reason to blame her unhappiness on me. I've decided to hold on until after christmas (for my daughters sake) and also to wait until the house sales). I figure it's just time and I've already held on this long, I can hang on for a few more months.
While I would love to follow MB principles and ideas, my situation has been a little out of the ordinary. Some of which was caused by my unwillingness to follow the book and also due to getting different advice and recommendations.
This is where I'm at and I'm trying to make the best of it.
