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Feeling nothing
#1767586 11/10/06 02:14 PM
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Hi All - it's been a little while since ive posted.
FWH is doing all the right things - NC continuing, transparency and honesty, being loving and attentive...and meanwhile I have been feeling a whole lotta nothing. I don't know what it is, I just feel so empty these days. Not sure I even want to stay married now. Anyone else experience this during early recovery?
I find myself making excuses to run errands or go shopping so I don't have to spend the entire evening with FWH...this weekend our DD is with her bio father and I am dreading it instead of looking forward to it. Feeling very negative and depressed and just blah. Wondering if anyone can relate...
Thanks <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Me 37, H 38
Dated 5 yrs, M 5/2002
15 yo DD
DDay 1 - 9/2002 OW 20 yo relative of H's friend
DDay 2 - 6/5/06- met OW on 2 week business trip, knew for one week - wanted D. A continued via phone/txt through 9/2006
NC Since 10/2006
DDay 3 - 8/2/08 - OW#1 has slithered back into the picture
Plan D
Re: Feeling nothing
MPELE #1767587 11/10/06 03:03 PM
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Anyone else experience this during early recovery?

OH YES ! The absence of drama in early recovery was a real culture shock.

I stopped waiting for the other shoe to drop after around 9 months to a year of NC & recovery work. Life improved then and proper perspective started to return.

Nowadays work and day to day stuff has retaken its rightful place as "needing attention". Its all good.

I hope this helps.

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Re: Feeling nothing
MPELE #1767588 11/12/06 02:22 AM
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Have a heart 2 heart w/yourself 1st, then with him. Ask him to help you find closure.

What u r going through is quite normal. Your healing process will have a period of time where anger will surface. How you handle it is crucial.

R U 2 going to any MC or talking to Steve? Please read the stages of grieving in my sig line.

Let us know if you need to talk.

take care,
L.
Re: Feeling nothing
Orchid #1767589 11/14/06 02:08 AM
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MPele,

How are you doing? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

L.

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