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It is a crime in some countries.

Why it is not in your country is an interesting discussion in waiting IMO.


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Because the "popular" leaders are doing it and the ones that object are labelled "intolerant."


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Hollywood has glamorized it. We've become desensitized to it. We pay to watch the movies that portray it. Wonder how many millions in box office sales Fatal Attraction and Sleeping w/the Enemy took in? There are countless others that make it okay. Same w/lots of other things that are common place in our society today that we would not have tolerated 50 years ago.

In Old Testament times you got stoned. Today you get publicity in the tabloids.

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It is a crime in some countries.

Why it is not in your country is an interesting discussion in waiting IMO.



PLEASE tell us the law in Great Britan & what is the sentance?
maybe we ,USA, can change the laws to be more like yours!
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It has been and still is a capital offense in some places.

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Da heck with Great Britain, try Saudi Arabia......


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After the affair came out, my husband said to me that, if adultery were a crime, no one would get married.

I sat there thinking -- if I had known he thought that, I never would have married him.

The problem with adultery not being a crime is that a person who thinks that the fidelity is a vow may marry someone who thinks it is an intention.

I never was raped but my husband did break my arm when I threatened to call this woman with whom, in fact, he was having an affair. He decided to go to anger management, and the therapist asked that I meet with him. When I met with him, I said that my husband admitting to having lunch with this woman was perhaps 20 times more painful than his breaking my arm. At the time, I didn't know the affair was sexual -- just thought it was an EA. And I needed three surgeries for the arm.

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PLEASE tell us the law in Great Britan & what is the sentance?
maybe we ,USA, can change the laws to be more like yours!
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I didn't read that the poster I replied to was from the US. Folks on here are from everyplace. No offense intended.

In the UK adultery is so widespread and culturally tolerated, I would not be surprised if it was made COMPULSORY soon !


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Da heck with Great Britain, try Saudi Arabia......




I live in Saudi Arabia. The penalty is not a deterrent to the practice. Adultery is as common here as everywhere - maybe more so.

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My $.02 is that our lawmakers are among the most celebrated adulterers... why pass a law that makes yourself a criminal? IMHO

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I live in Saudi Arabia. The penalty is not a deterrent to the practice. Adultery is as common here as everywhere - maybe more so.




Really? That's interesting. I guess it makes the thrill all the more intense if you are actually risking your life. Kinda like extreme sports.

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Does anyone know of any non-muslim countries where adultery is illegal?

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Really? That's interesting. I guess it makes the thrill all the more intense if you are actually risking your life. Kinda like extreme sports.





That is one theory but I am told on reasonably good authority that it is not the motive. If adultery is reported, the punishment will be applied without question. It is generally not reported but not for the reason you might think. The problem with a man reporting his wife cheating is that he loses face among his peers. He was obviously unable to maintain control of his wife so he must have something seriously wrong with him. rahter than face that kind of ridicule, it is easier to leave it unreported. For those with multiple wives, two or three of them can easily go ignored for years on end. Have their requisite child or children and they are left behind albeit maintained in good fashion.

I don't know the psychology of it first hand but a man cheating on his wife is accepted as the norm. A woman cheating on her husband is unheard of but who is the man cheating with then? Yes there are sometimes single women involved but not always.

What I see here is that the more strict the laws become, the more they are broken. This applies to other things as well - "medication", etc.

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That is one theory but I am told on reasonably good authority that it is not the motive. If adultery is reported, the punishment will be applied without question. It is generally not reported but not for the reason you might think.





I would also think that a deterrent to reporting the crime would be if both parties are punished the same way. I mean, I can see being mad enough at the OP to wish them dead, but most peope probably wouldn't want to have their spouse killed also.

Divorce has harmful effects on children -- what do you think having a parent executed by the state would do to them?

I do find it interesting that the punishments you usually hear about are either nothing or death. I wonder why there aren't more in between punishments (prison, fines, fault divorces, etc.). Fault divorces wouldn't really fall into the making it illegal category, would it? I wonder how many countries just have fault divorces where adultery does count.

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Interesting point piojitos....I guess people will do what they will do regardless of the legal consequences. Maybe the risk is making it more exciting. Go figure....


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We could always tattoo a big "A" on their foreheads.


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Would that be A for ASS ???


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what do you think having a parent executed by the state would do to them?





In Western culture, that is totally valid but here it is not. What you are saying is very nearly akin to anthropmorphism. You are trying to apply Western values and reasoning where it cannot be applied. People here don't think like that and are largely incapable and will likely remain that way for a few hundred more years. According to the Hijrah calendar, we are in something like the year 1421. Mentally they are in about the same place as Europe was in their 1421 (more or less). The edcuation systems are very different between there and hear and the vast majority don't even go to school. There is no quick fix.

BTW, the men are not killed - only the women.

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what do you think having a parent executed by the state would do to them?





There is no quick fix.

BTW, the men are not killed - only the women.


I'll bet that would slow the "A" HOLES down a little!!


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