Here it goes. My wife is from Michigan and has been gone from there for 20+ years. She is real close with her sister who still lives there and visits her often. About 3 months ago I started noticeing the affection we've always had towards each other, started vanishing. We have drifted apart over the past couple years, with her doing her thing and me doing mine. We have been together for about 20 years and married for 17. We have a daughter who is almost 17. When I mentioned the affection issue to her she said, "I don't know, I'm going through some changes." She will be 43 in December and had a full historectomy 6 years ago. So, I figured maybe she is going through some changes. She went for her papsmear and I had her mention to her gyno the problem with no sexual drive. He said,"It's only been 2 months, after 6 months come see me." So again, maybe. She goes up to Michigan to surprise her sister for her birthday in October and when I try calling her she is cutting me off, doesn't have time to talk, walking out the door to go somewhere, etc. Come to find out she got in contact with a guy she dated 26 years ago as a 16-17 year old and was kind of forced to break up with. She got in contact with him 3 months ago over email. She met with him for dinner when she went up for her sisters b-day, had a few intimate moments with him, didn't sleep with him, but to this day, they are still in touch via email, texting, or on the phone. She says she never lost feeling for this guy over all the years, and now they have been re-ignited. She tells me she needs time by herself to figure out if it's just infatuation or love. I have moved out to give her her time, but right now the ball is in her court and she controls all the shots. I am in limbo, our daughter is devistated beyond belief along with myself. Searching for answers constantly.
Any advice, please don't hesitate.
Thank you for your time!
