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I have been reading my WW online post and blogs. She tells every one that she has a lawyer on retainer and has filed for divorce. But she is still in the same bed as me, and kisses me goodbye when she leaves the house.

My question is how long does it take to get served the papers? I have a lawyer but I did not put her on retainer because I did not think that the wife was gone this far yet. Maybe I am being naive but I am still working on the SAA book. Some of it is working to regain the love bank but I have only been working on it for a couple of weeks and I know it takes a lot longer after years of not seeing the Emotional needs of each other. She has not broke it off with her OM even though she said that she has. I know I read the emails.

So how long does it take?

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Ron


Married 12 years, BS 43(me), FWW 44 Kids 9 and 11 Recovering Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesian4
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I had retained a lawyer and told the lawyer of all the details ahead of time. When I finally was ready to serve the papers, I had them drawn up on a Wednesday, and WH was served on that Friday.

I hear it normally takes a week though. My attorney was pretty fast.

Good luck!

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Thank you for the reply. I hope that it doesn't come to this but her Friends are talking her into it because I care too much for her. Except that is not the words they are using about me.


Married 12 years, BS 43(me), FWW 44 Kids 9 and 11 Recovering Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Ephesian4

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