Well, it's been a long time since I posted. So an update is in order.
It has been just over two years since I joined again. WH aka the Dork, is now with a MOW aka DP4.
He is now living with her fulltime but stil pays rent at his place. I guess he is scared that she will have rights to be considered his commonlaw wife. GAG! In Canada, it does not matter that we are still married. As he lives with her, after a year of this, she is considered his commonlaw wife and after two years she can get support for her and her children as well.
THat should be interesting as she is quite the golddigger.
Of course that is his problem. Me and DD14 are doing well. I have some health issues that have forced me to be off work for a while. (Bad ticker) SO I guess a BS can have a broken heart. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
After two years of doing what I could to limit the damage and work on myself and stay strong, I can say proudly that we will be okay.
DOrk has decided that his MOW is far more important to him than me or DD14. He has decided that since DD14 calls him a liar that he will never see her again. THat is his choice. DD14 is doing well considering the circumstances. SHe does NOT feel like it is her fault. SHe understand it is HIS failures. He has seen her about 6 times in over a year for a total amount of time of 12 hours.
Dork is totally unrecognizable. He is drinking too much. DP4 and DOrk hide in their skankhouse and NEVER answer the phone. I mean NEVER. They are completely cut off from anyone who does not agree with their adultery. He avoids and ignores even the most critical things. Like court. He refused three court dates. Will not contact his lawyer. Won't submit required documents to my lawyer. BLAH BLAH BLAH.
And even though he pays support, it is only after I chase him for a month to get postdated cheques. I guess this is his payback for it being my FAULT that he is a serial adulterer and a deadbeat Dad. Sick and pathetic dance.
BUt, it is coming to an end. We do have a confirmed court ordered Case Conference Dec 11th. And if he doesn't show or doesn't produce the doucments the court will make a determination - eventually <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> without it.
Thing is, he has intructed his layer not to join his D action with my separation action. Makes no sense whatsoever. IF they were joined the D would happened automatically after this was settled. But the WH makes absolutely no sense with anything he does.
AJAG and his immediate boss are very aware of his actions. They are documenting everything. And he is being watched. BUT becasue slimy, slippery, Dork is paying support and we have no legal, filed agreement, they can't help too much. With the active encouragement of DP4. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> He is on her leash and basically has to ask permission for everything. LOL
I have been asked for and supplied MOW name and phone number, etc. The military is NOT happy with Dork. His boss told me I should try to get Dork some jail time. ROFL! He said he thought that Dork needed a big wake up call. THat is not the first time I have heard that advise. But that would jeopardize his career and that would hurt us so not a great idea.
I am not looking forward to the Case Conference but resigned to the necessity of it. I wil get sole custody and guardianship. If he "changes his mind" and wants to see DD he will be required to pay for a family custody and access report and a psychological assessment. But that of course owuld mean he would have to act and use his brian. So I doubt that he will ask for anything.
And, if I do not agree I will stil have the final say on IF I allow Dork to see DD. I tried too hard to make visits possible and I won't do that any more.
But on the upside, I am now a Grandmother! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Of TWINS! Born November 2. I was the labour coach. AND though they were preemies, they are healthy enough to go home in 2 or 3 days. WOOHOO!
