OM left his wife shortly after beginning affair with my WW in March/05. My WW left her family on July 29/06 and D day was Aug.1/06.Have been in plan B since Oct.25/06. I do not know if the OM is divorced yet. My daughter briefly dated OM son in 2004 and recently contacted him on the internet to see what he knew about the affair.He said he had heard nothing, which is probably true since he has left this area and doesn't seem to have much contact with his father.He did say however,that he hoped his mother would not hear about it.Since the OM left her she has moved 3000miles from here.Would exposing the affair to her accomplish anything? It would appear that she is moving on with her life and exposure may do nothing but bring back painful memories.On the other hand if the affair did play a significant role in her husbands decision to leave then maybe she has a right to know

There you've got it - you've just answered your own question.

not2late, If I were her, I would appreciate knowing.

She has a right to know.

Even is she has completely moved on, she might well want to be checked for STDs - who knows what her WH's history has been.

Tell her.

Alph.

I called the OM wife last night and we spoke for 40 minutes.She has moved on with her life and no longer has any contact with the OM.The only thing her WH would admit to was that he and my WW were 'just friends' She had strong suspicions that it was more and even contemplated calling me but was discouraged from doing so by her WH. I can't help but think that exposure and confronting my WW at that early stage of the affair might have changed the course of events. The OM wife is now aware of everything but she doesn't really care what becomes of the affairees.She had great difficulty in understanding why I would ever consider taking my WW back.She gave up on her WH shortly after he left citing trust as the major reason.