After my suicide after my violence marriage. Im in counseling for my stupid mistake and I want my marriage work with my wife. Im the one brought her in. She still fear her life. But a little improve with each other. We still seperate. After a violence marriage will marriage work after a counseling and changing it? Or is it completely up to her faith on our marriage?

First, take into consideration how your wife feels. She has experienced violence at the had of the man she loves. It is good that the two of you are apart. She doesn't need violence in her life. It sounds like you are admitting that you have a problem with violence and abuse. If you truly love her then let your wife go, leave her alone. Counseling at this point will be for her healing and restoration. And for you counseling will be for your anger. Violence is unacceptable in a marriage.

you would need a lot of counselling. I'm unusal around here in that dh and I are working on it even after there were violent episodes however that's against the advise of pretty much everyone on this board. Basically, violence is a deal breaker in a relationship, pretty much NO-ONE anywhere is going to suggest that your wife get back together with you if you have been violent to her. In our case, it's been almost a year - BUT I know if anything ever happens again - I have to leave and it would be permanant. It sounds like what you did was pretty severe as you say she is still in fear for her life. (I've not been in fear for my life - so likely more minor). If she truly is in fear for her life from you; let her go/leave her alone/work on yourself.

Don't pressure your wife to work on the relationship, you need to work on you. Separation is usually recommended. It sounds like if you have tried to kill yourself and have been violent to her - that you may need extensive counselling. There is a book that might help you some as well - "Angry men and the woman who love them: breaking the cycle of physical and emotional abuse" by Paul Hegstrom.

It has been awhile since you last posted. Perhaps you still check in on occasion.

Steven Stosny . Pick up his books and read them. If you can afford to, go to one of his "Boot Camps." He makes no guarantees that his methods will work, in fact, he says that about 20% of the time they won't.

If you can dedicate yourself to doing a few simple things, you might be able to get a portion of your life back.