This morning I posted that my H called me and wanted to come back home. I really thought it through well and called him and told him he could. Well it's 11:11pm and still no H. I really don't know how much more of this crap I can take! My 13 yr old son looks so sad. Is this just a big game to him or what! Do I call him and tell him where to go or what! I'm sorry for the venting I'm just really, really upset. You guys can start in with the I told you so's now. :^)<P>Jill<P>{What wicked webs infidelity weaves}

I feel so bad for your son. I also have a 13 year old son - he went to bed tonight crying because he just wants "a normal life". I will never understand how they can do this to their children.

They might be having a knock out drag out fight right now...so stay tuned.<P>Did he give you a time? Did he talk with kids?<P>You need to do what you need to do...we are only here to offer opinions.<P>My current opinion is to lock the door and go to bed.<P>If he shows, send him to the guest room or sofa and talk to him in the morning.<P>He's out of his mind to mess with you.<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Thanks, I'm just so sad right now. I really thought maybe this was our chance. I'm going to try to go to bed now. I'll talk to you guys tomorrow.

Crazy or What,<P>It's morning...... how are you? Did H show up? Let us know how you're doing.<P>We wouldn't start in with the I told you so. We all want our spouses to come back and the fact that you may have been given that chance would make any of us want to do it. You did what you felt was right and hopefully it will/has happened. If not, you come here and let us help you through it and whatever may come next.<P>T2W

Hi all, No H didn't come home. I called him right away this morning and he was a total jerk to me. He said he didn't think I wanted him home by what I said. Do you want to know what I had said? I told him I loved him and I wanted to work on our marriage. I told him that i knew it wasn't going to be easy but that I wanted to try to get back to where we were. I told him that after 15 years together we owed ourselves that and our kids that much. I did tell him that i don't know if i can deal with him even talking to OW. That is I guess what made him believe i didn't want him home. Nothing like pouring your heart out only to get it stomped on eh?<BR>I did get mad at him this morning and really love busted for the first time and to tell you the truth I feel much better. I did tell him I still wanted him home but only if he wants to come home. He said that he wants to come home but that he doesn't know how to get out of the situation there. I told him that it's as simple as saying, I love my family and they need me and I'm going home. He then said, "Ya, right." That's when i told him that I was through being nice and told him that he knows where we are if and when he wants to discuss this further and hung up on him. He's really driving me to the nut house! I've tried to be so understanding and paitent through all of this. I just can't do that anymore. I will no longer play second to anyone. I don't even know if after today this can be fixed. I really don't think I can ever look at him the same way again. My feelings have really changed. I guess I<BR> feel if he wants me back he better do some seriouse a** kissing.<P>Thanks to all of you for your support and allowing me to rant and rave here. I know we alot of us are in the same boat and i think without this forum we would be in alot worse shape than we are. <BR>