Ok guys, I'd like to hear your thoughts on how a woman can best flirt and show interest while still acting like a lady. I'd also like to know what a woman can do to help a relationship move forward. It's an open discussion...

Ladies - if you have any secrets or good tips on either category, then share!...

p.s. I'm trying eHarmony for a month. I just needed to do something proactive. We'll see...

C / Nev ~ Can I tell you in person next week? haha

I'll give you a hint...it's all in the eyes.

Speak with you next week.

~ High Flight

My new GF (Well, I guess we are now, considering the time and exclusivity we offer each other) and I were talking last night about how we got to this stage and the early signals we shared to move our relationship forward. It was interesting about how observant each of us was flirting and connecting. A first sign I noticed (she denies consciously doing it) was her hand stretching just a little too far across the restaurant table. She remembers reaching for a handshake at the end of that evening, then reconsidering if the hug I was offering was appropriate. We both enjoyed teasing and playfulness - still do. Suggestive comments, double entandre, and touching were exciting and fun. It was the very subtle things; however, that were endearing - a text message while I was out of town in the middle of a speech, the roses I picked from my yard because I thought of her, wearing a sweater I'd commented that looked nice on her.

Honesty - That's the tip I can offer. Carry the tease as far as you feel comfortable. It's supposed to be fun! But when boundaries are required, make the terms very clear. If the guy is worthy, you'll be respected for it. And honesty and respect will be important if the relationship does move forward.

i like innocent fun flirting. i don't like any kinds of sexual comments in the initial flirting stages, nothing brash. i like the feeling or giving someone the feeling of "oh they have a little crush on me"... and then taking it from there. fun teasing back and forth. stuff like that. nothing heavy, just light and fun. and i think if you can hang onto that even years after being in a relationship, that fun light hearted flirting, than i think it would make the relationship better.

mlhb

Hi never:

I've thought a bit about your interesting post and would like to share my thoughts.

As you know - flirting can mean different things to different people. I sometimes prefer the semi-aggressive approach from a woman. Such as: I like it when she is at my home when I get there from work, greets me at the door with a chilled margarita - immediately removes all clothing (mine included), and leads me in for a hot bath.

After mutual "full-body-bathings" (which takes about an hour) - we then dry each other off slowly - careful to be sure that everything is nice & dry. She then brushes my hair - and I brush hers. (I love wet hair! It makes me.....and she knows it!)

We then move into my bedroom where the candles cause her eyes to sparkle that vivid shade of blue that reminds me of the color of the Atlantic Ocean on a full-moon night. She's carressing me as we ease over to the bed. I pull the comforter back only to reveal the freshly washed, still warm silk sheets that I cannot wait to lay on with her.

She begins to lie down and I'm amazed at her gracefulness - it's like she's floating her way onto the bed. I quickly realize that I'm slipping into that "in-between" phase (you know - the one where we desperately want to go crazy w/each other - yet don't want to - because we don't want it all to end)!

She's now lying there on her back - reaching up to me - pulling me toward her. She can't seem to stop holding me, rubbing me, kissing me and I feel the same. Finally - I lay down beside her and slowly, but strongly place her arms above her head - whispering for her to keep them there. I then begin to softly carress her ---- wait a minute! Hold on here. I just re-read your post and see that you mentioned "open discussion". I thought it read "open relationship"! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Someone told me that this place needed to be livened up a little. Hope this helped! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

FR

whoa...thats flirting?

I've been doing it wrong.

FR, thanks for that - sitting here alone on a Friday night, me and my computer.... *sigh*

Express some interest in him. Ask about his career, children, etc. If he has to do all the talking and conversation work, it says you don;t really care much about him.