Post deleted by ediu

Ah, cool, we've been aching for some drama here <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

OK, seriously, almost all of us here have been where you are - dealing with WS for months and months, finally becoming separated, feeling free, starting to date, being amazed that some lovely person actually finds us desirable (after WS wouldn't give us the time of day for months), and feeling that we click and have found our soulmate.

I can also tell you the next chapter in the book - heartbreak. Big time. You are not ready, not even close, for a serious relationship.

You have yet to go through about 50-80% of the recovery process, and this new gal will not be able to help you - actually, she will hinder you, because she will distract you from the process.

All the talk about "we are going slow" is nice, but it makes no difference. You should not be going anywhere until you are ready, and you are not. Your gal actually has pretty good senses if she worries about getting hurt - she will. Or you will.

Let's see, you've been having sex with your wife last month, but also think you are ready for a relationship with a new gal this month? Nope.

Anyway, glad you found us, and I hate to be the wet blanket (I usually am not, just ask mlhb), but you need some long time to recover before even thinking about a relationship. Dating, sure, relationship, no.

AGG

You do believe you're addicted to drama right? It seems your IC was right on in that assessment.

If you do indeed like the fact your W is "nuts" & you think you can help her, white knight syndrome, move back in & live the life.

If you want a chance at a more stable relationship, perhaps minus the drama, D, wait a while, then date women OPPOSITE of your W.

I wonder how your kids are doing. That would be my main focus & concern.

Post deleted by ediu

Then stand up and take control guy.YOU are the only one who can make the chaos stop and for the sake of your children,you need to be alone for a while IMO.Also you are not being fair to the New girl and the various other's you have encountered.You're a mess and only divorced since August and if she were my friend I would instruct her to stear clear of you...only heartache down the road for her.Don't take lightly toying with other peoples emotions and hearts.

Also,your ex is nowhere near being stable right now and is in no condition to be a GF,wife or anything of that nature.I sure hope she is at least taking care of the children appropriately.Having sex with her was big mistake too.You shouldn't do that( hope you had yourself checked out <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />)

Well, it's the whole 5 stages of grieving, right? - denial, anger, bargaining, depression, acceptance. Since you were having sex with your wife about a month ago, I'd say you are still somewhere in the denial or bargaining phase, ya know?


Well, maybe he needs some support from you, instead of seeing you play house...


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Well, yeah, read what you wrote about your son. "Hanging out", in your situation, is going to cause lots and lots of pain for everyone involved.

AGG

yea agg, you're NOT a wet blanket at all, ever, never, nope, not you!

mlhb