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(Hi Everyone, I havent posted here in a while!!)
I'm trying to figure out how I should plan the holiday with my daughter and my Ex. This has been a big problem to agree to...
Last year when we were seperated we did this:
Daughter spent the entire Thanksgivinig weekend w me and my family. (Thanksgiving weekend falls on a weekend that is assigned to me anyway)
Then over Xmas my Daughter spent Christmas eve w my Ex and I picked her up early on Christmas morning.
THIS YEAR we have to figure out how to do it again...
According to the State Reccomended plan:
• Ex would get Daughter for thanksgiving, friday and all weekend. But I get to spend the end of the year with Daughter from 9 PM Christmas Eve until New Years.
We were considering a compromise like this:
Ex does a thanksgiving lunch w Daughter then I take her for the evening with my family. Daughter stays w me for Friday, and the weeekend.
For Christmas, Ex would spend Chrismas Eve and night w Daughter, and I'd pick Daughter up later christmas morning.
Potential problems:
1) If we do the proposed Christmas compromise:
• Splitting up Thanksgiving might not be a great idea
• I miss waking up on Christmas morning w my daughter again!
2) If we go by the state plan:
• I miss seeing my daughter for 3 weekends in a row!
• I would not get my daughter at all NEXT christmas
What do you think...?
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A lot really depends on what your daughter wants. Since Christmas morning is a big deal, I’m guessing she’s still young. But that magical age of the North Pole doesn’t last very long. I like splitting Christmas Eve and Christmas Day.
As a child of divorce, I really resented the pressure of eating two Thanksgiving dinners. It’s just too stressful.
Isn’t all this spelled out in your custody agreement? It is in mine.
Divorced.
2 Girls
Remarried 10/11/08
Widowed 11/5/08
Remarrying 12/17/15
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it is spelled out very specifically in my custody agreement as well....
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