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I am really struggling STILL with bad jealousy and low self esteem. When he has talked with a female I have to know everything they said, if he thought she was attractive, I drill him, I HATE doing this. The thoughts of what he thought of the person just go through my head. It is actually a trigger when he talks with a female because he met the person he had the ONS with at his work, he didn't know her, so how do you end up in bed with someone you just talked with twice??? It makes me wonder what goes through his head each time he talks with a female, like how's he getting her into bed, I know it's probably my imagination but I can't seem to get over this. It has caused a lot of arguments, not that he's not understanding, he answers my questions but then I always have to make some rude comment. My FWH is a very friendly person, and although I have never seen him flirtatios with a female I guess I don't know what he does when I'm not around, obviously there had to have been some type of flirting going on for him to have been able to have sex with someone after just meeting them.

I notice he talks different to girls versus guys on the phone, that causes me to be jealous. I have been told that shouldn't bother me, but again my imagination runs. Any suggestions on how to deal with this before my marriage breaks from this?? Is this normal, am I crazy now? Thanks

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Hi Wanting,

I know exactly how you feel. For the last 15 yrs, I thought I was crazy/a prude for feeling insecure about my H's actions. I know now that it's not my problem, it's his.

Check out the thread "jealousy" under "emotional needs". The last post was 11/17 so it's near the bottom. It may help you, it did for me for sure. It also opened my H's eyes to the damage it causes.

I wish you well.


Husband was unfaithful to me before and after our marriage, at least 7 times. I found out 13 yrs into the marriage. Trickle truth for an entire year. Several different d-days, so it was more like a d-year. Difficult recovery.



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Thank you I definetly will check it out. I need alot of help with this, any advise would be so appreciated. Thanks for responding.


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