First time here. I've viewed a lot, but never joined. Brief history

My WH having an affair for 2 1/2 years. I was one of those wives who suspected, confronted but could never prove so I finally got proof and all ****** broke loose. 4/12/06 dday. The story is so awful. I spoke with her several times - she laughed at me and said she would never back away that she and he had a "deep connection" and she intended to be with him forever. I also spoke with her soon to be ex-husband. My WH had met with him several times as well - as he described because he was in a unique position to offer them marital advice - kind of hard when f(&#*! the wife.

I'm an excellent sleuth and my WH found ever more clever ways to keep contact. We entered therapy which seemed to help but apparently he lied through. We moved across country together for a "new beginning" He has seemed very contrite. Always pleading love for me and our 5 year old daughter. Knows this is what he wants long term, loves me, but loves her too and is very confused. He says he's been struggling with trying to determine whether or not it will be a worthwhile marriage after breaking with her or if I will subject him to a life of misery. This is his 2nd marriage with 3 kids from prior. He cheated in last marriage too. (I know, stupid me)

So I've hung in there, we've stayed together in the house, I've read the books, read this site exhaustively, completely dedicated myself to trying to make this work. But I know I am not good with boundaries.

So, now I've discovered the OW has sent him over 100 pornographic pics of herself taken with her husband. They remain in contact at work, but I believe my WH has another cell phone since I have access to all vmails and emails. I just discovered this last weekend my WH went to FL to see kids. She joined him, and he took pics of ALL their time together. So now I've seen pics of him having sex with her.

I immediately asked for a separation. He of course can't be inconvenienced and won't leave the house. So I'm prepared to move out with my daughter. He says he loves me, he'll end it (he just hasn't had enough courage before!), our family needs to stay together, it's the holidays, blah, blah, blah. It's very challenging being in the same house, but the earliest I can get out is mid-December. So now I'm wondering how good the timing for my daughter's Christmas experience. And I'm struggling with the right balance of distance and reasonable co-parenting. He keeps trying to hold me, says he loves me, he's so sorry, let's put this together, he'll go to counseling in Jan. But I've heard this and we've been through this exact scenario at least 7 - 8 times

Stupid fool that I am, I want to rebuild my marriage. I have a very strong faith and believe there is yet reason to hope, but I need to establish some strong boundaries here. I'm a wreck, on anti-depressants and desperately need some distance to heal.

Please help with my current situation behavior suggestions and any thoughts on how to handle is willingness to work in words, and horrid actions.

I'm not really desperate, just tragically sad