What do you do about your WS not being interested in any affection? My husband doesn't want any affection from me and gives me none. I miss him so much. I miss his warm hugs and embraces. I miss him telling me how nice I look. I miss laying down with him and taking naps. I don't know what I'm going to do. This hurts so bad.

I used to hug my pillow, love my plants and of course my child. I helped others and gave so help me heal.

Well, now my pillow is only used for sleeping, my plants don't get watered much (thank goodness for the Hawaii rains - <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> ), I help less but still help when I can (I have learned to pace myself a bit better, got a ways to go though), but I have not given up on giving my son the love and hugs he needs to grow into a caring and loving man. He's got a few hairs on his chin and told me he is becoming a man (he's only 12 - LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> ). Hm.... so now I can't embaress him by hugging him public (too much) because he is becoming a man. LOL!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Part of growing up I guess.

My H is now more affectionate (though he can improve)....my point is you find a way to share your affection. Don't wait for him. Let him witness your affectionate displays. After a reasonable time and he doesn't reciporcate, you will know and then be able to decide if he is worth having in your life or not.

JMHO,
L.

Should I try to be affectionate with him? Should I talk to him about it? I hate his distance. It's really hurting me.

IMHO, he isn't doing anything to deserve t/b affectionate for. Show love to a blooming plant. At least you get to enjoy it.

Why reward his behavior? You need to learn how to cope and not depend on him.

L.