Is it inappropriate to expose the OM website on this board? He has a way to contact him on the site. He is a writer, producer, and what ever else they do. I would like to expose it so people will know what he is. I also would like to expose his Myspace and my WW myspace.

So let me know if you think this is wrong or I should expose them on here.

Thanks
R

Realize that by exposing the OM's website, you may also be setting the wheels in motion to have your own identity exposed here (for example, if OM gets a ton of comments, does some investigation and turns up here). Just something for you to consider if you decide to go ahead with this.

Wife already knows I am here. I told her that is what I am doing to save our marriage and make me a better person. I even asked her to join me in MB counsel session. Which she refused.

So exposing him is not that big of deal to me

But it is something to consider

thanks
R

I may not be the person to make a comment on this, as I am the WS, but here's my two cents if it's worth anything.

First, you gotta do what your heart, mind and spirit tell you to do in order for you to heal. Being a WS, I can't tell you what that might be, but I pray whatever you do will bless you and your marriage.

I am not really familiar with the inner workings of the entertainment world, but it seems to me that there will be no real negative for this guy if you do expose him. My perception of the entertainment world is that infidelity is not a big drawback like it would be, say, in my profession or my town. Even if he is married and his wife is unaware of his infidelity, it's not really a negative for him. I mean, his wife should know if he is cheating on her and the best thing is exposure anyway.

Also, please understand, I know you don't care, and you shouldn't care, whether this is a positive or negative thing from his perspective. You have every reason and right to expose the ****** out of the guy.

Ok, so if I am right about this being a negative/positive thing from his point of view, what do you get out of it? If you are trying to cause him problems, will exposure do him any harm? If it does, will any reprisals from him cause you any harm? All things being equal, and I mean this as a human being, doing something out of vengance may well backfire on you. So please think about it carefully, which I know you are.

If, on the other hand, your desire is to simply warn people about the guy, there might be some merit to your desire. You might want to let people on the MB sight know that the situation is between you, your wife and him, and they don't need to start sending him a bunch of e-mails, but if all you want to do is provide others with the ability to protect themselves, then at least your motives are pure and, while there may be some negative reprocussions to you, there's now way the guy could rightfully come back and attack you for anything.

I am sure this really sounds like a stupid response, but I just hope whatever you do works for you. I am sorry you are in the situation and sorry your wife won't try and look at things through the eyes of those on here who are far wiser than I.

God bless.

Betayed,

Although the truth is the ultimate defense in any slander action I would be careful where I expose the scumbag. If he truly is a writer/producer, he lives in a world over run by similar people and a lot of those people are attorneys.

Anonymity loss may not be worth it.

BTW: Since he is on myspace(designed for kids)is he into kiddie porn?

jimm5045,

I see you are new here. Welcome!!

BetrayedinCal is not being encouraged to expose the affair as a means of revenge. Nor is he suggesting exposure targets as revenge. Exposure is a tool to help end the affair. Read all parts of this website. You'll understand.......

Again,,welcome to MB!

Thanks Jim
That was a great post. I am not sure what the reason for posting it here. Whether it be pure, to warn or for vengence. That is why I did not post it to begin with but asking the question. I kind of would like people to post on his site and tell him that he is cheating with a married woman. I would also like people to help me with the other guys on my WW myspace site and warn them that she is married and a liar.

I know I am frustrated and hurt. I am reaching out. Not that any of this is right or wrong. But being young in this problem with my WW I am still struggling for a direction to make the pain stop. This is more the reason for this post. I do not want to do the wrong thing but stay in the right direction

Thanks

That is one of the problems I am struggling with (Anonymity) IF I loose it here and the WW starts on MB will it all be for not? I know others have had problems with the WW being here and using it against them in court.

No I do not believe that the scum is into kiddie porn. I think that he is using a bunch of old woman to gain money. Most of the Myspace friends have sent him money for his PROJECT, including my WW.

R

Wow, stereotype much?

Rogue,

Wow, read the media much?

From the tone of the original post, I get the impression that exposing the website here is an effort to generate a grass roots harassment campaign where MB posters would contact the OM telling him what we thought of him. I'm no lawyer but I can see how that might cause you problems. If all we can do is contact OM and tell him he is an OM, that is information he probably already has. If we tell him he is a scum-sucking OM, that might hold you up to slander or, at least, harassment. It is also not likely to win you any points with WW. Can you prove he is an OM? Who many celebrities have won libel cases against tabloids for printing essentially true information? At least enough to make me think twice.

Why don't you expose your OM in your local church or other public forum? What is the benefit of doing it here? This seems more vindictive than in any way productive. JMO.

Yes that was the intent of the original post and the more I thought about it the more it was vindictive. He is not a major celeb but some guy who wants to break into the biz. He is mostly the guy that runs for coffee for the big people currently. But yes I am sure it would be harrasment.

As for the local church? He is not local, he is in Canada. The benefit of doing it here is like you said to have others contact him. But that is too vindictive and has no purpose.

I have contacted him and confronted the wife about it and was looking for a new tactic. It seems like all I have tried has not worked so far. Just looking for a new direction. Threw this out for comments and it so far is not a good ideal.

Thanks
R